at the courthouse? So my fiance and I have decided that we would like to go to the courthouse and get married instead of having a blowout wedding with lots of stress and drama. I mostly decided on this because we both come from a broken home, and our mothers' family can't stand our father's family and so on and so forth. So basically I wanted to not have to worry about a single thing being messy or stressful.
For our honeymoon, we have booked a cruise for May 11th of this year, and plan to get married at the courthouse first thing that morning and just leave. I wasn't planning on inviting ANYONE to be there during the "ceremony". We did not want to just elope and not tell anyone, so we have announced our engagement, and just made it clear that this is just an experience for my future hubby and I. Everyone is okay with this, but here's the catch.
My future mother-in-law has told me that she wants to give me a wedding shower in April. This is a nice gesture and I would love that, but wouldn't that be a little tacky to have a shower but not want anyone at the wedding? My whole point was to not have the entire family together. She would have to invite my dad's side, my mother's side, his mother's side, and his dad's side to this. I believe that I would be okay with it since there would be no males there (my dad, his dad) and would be worry free about conflicts, but I am unsure, as far as etiquette concerns.
And, if it isn't right to have a shower, what is a good, nice, way to tell my future mother in law no thanks? Could I suggest maybe something less formal like an after-party for when we get back from our honeymoon? Please help!!! ANY advice is much appreciated!
For our honeymoon, we have booked a cruise for May 11th of this year, and plan to get married at the courthouse first thing that morning and just leave. I wasn't planning on inviting ANYONE to be there during the "ceremony". We did not want to just elope and not tell anyone, so we have announced our engagement, and just made it clear that this is just an experience for my future hubby and I. Everyone is okay with this, but here's the catch.
My future mother-in-law has told me that she wants to give me a wedding shower in April. This is a nice gesture and I would love that, but wouldn't that be a little tacky to have a shower but not want anyone at the wedding? My whole point was to not have the entire family together. She would have to invite my dad's side, my mother's side, his mother's side, and his dad's side to this. I believe that I would be okay with it since there would be no males there (my dad, his dad) and would be worry free about conflicts, but I am unsure, as far as etiquette concerns.
And, if it isn't right to have a shower, what is a good, nice, way to tell my future mother in law no thanks? Could I suggest maybe something less formal like an after-party for when we get back from our honeymoon? Please help!!! ANY advice is much appreciated!