Is it rude to ask ppl to travel..?

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nelski

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My fiance and i have decided to get married at a beach 40min away from our home town next march, But still want too have our reception in our own town..
Is it rude to ask ppl to drive to the ceremony.?
We also thinking about putting a little card/letter in with the invites stating that there more than welcome to skip the ceremony if they not up for a drive and just came along for the reception and celebrate with us..
Opinions please =)
 
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Felini

New member
It's not rude at all, but it might break up the "flow" and feeling of the event to have that long of a break. Plus is seems like it calls for more logistics (directions to two venues, parking logistics, perhaps different vendors). It definately simplifies your planning if the ceremony and reception are adjacent. Our was, and I was glad for it!
 
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Kell

Member
I don't think it is rude to ask your guest to travel it is your wedding and people who love and care about you will come even if they have to drive. I dont know that I would include the card if they can come to the reception then they can come to the wedding. Congrats!
 
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Me

Active member
Ideally the ceremony and reception will be close to each other. Is there a venue for your reception close to the beach?

If not, skip the little card. If your guests feel it is too far to travel they will let you know or just not attend the ceremony.

Another idea, it may be costly though, is to provide transportation to the ceremony. Your guests can leave their cars at the venue site.

I have been to quite a few weddings recently that provided some form a transportation. It was usually to and from the reception to a hotel (so no one had to drive drunk) but it would also work in your situation.

It is a great way for your guests to bond a bit. I attended an out of state wedding where I didnt know anyone but the bride. The hotel was a hike and they provided a party bus for us. By the time I arrived at the wedding I was already friendly with a bunch of the guests.
 
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riley

Member
I do not think it is rude if it is what you truly want. I do not think I would include the card you mention, your guests will decide with/without the card.
 
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Janice10

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You do not need to enclose the card/letter in your invitations. People will decide if they want to go to the ceremony and the reception. I think putting the card in the invitations deters people from coming to the ceremony. My wedding was in the area I am from and we had two receptions, one right after the ceremony, and one a hour away where my now husband is from and our guest came to both. It is your very special day so enjoy yourself, the time will go by quickly. Most of all have a wonderful wedding day.
 
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mRoSesRbLUem

New member
No, it's not rude. It's your big day- do what is going to make you happy & give you the best memories. If people don't want to travel, no biggie. They'll just skip the ceremony & go to the reception. You'll still get a hug & a gift (wink wink). Have fun!!
 
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kouklarose

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I don't think 40 minutes is a big deal...but that's just me. Let them decide whether or not they want to skip the ceremony, but don't encourage it on your invites.
 
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