So, here's my dilemma. I'm 20 and i've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. I've met his entire family and he's met most of my family too except the worst one... which is my mother. I wouldn't call her strict because she knows I have a boyfriend by picking up on clues of me never being home & seeing pictures of me and him but, she's the type of mother thats the opposite of every other mom. She'll know something but she doesn't wanna hear it or see it. She'll find letters from him to me but she wont question it.. she'll act like she never saw it. It's really weird. Is she scared to bring things up? It's kind of like her being in denial. & She is not the easiest person to have meet someone. She can get a major attitude problem & dislikes guys that look like my boyfriend. He's the sweetest guy ever but he dresses a bit baggy & has a few tattoos. Although he's really educated and we're extremely serious. He's someone a mother would like after months of getting to know him, maybe not right off the bat. haha.
& i know they have to meet someday but is it too soon? I wanted to wait another year or so til i'm 21 and done with school so she can take me more seriously but my boyfriend's parents are already asking me when i'm going to introduce their son to my mom. I feel bad because they probably feel like i resent him, when i really don't. I just have a mean mom ! lol She wouldn't even wanna talk on the phone with him. I'll have him on the phone and he just might want to say hi to her & i'll pretend like hes someone i'm really close to and she'll hear a guys voice but push the phone away from her when i hand it to her. Isn't that weird? I know some people are gonna say just sit her down and have them meet but i know how she is and my boyfriend doesn't get it. I dont want him to feel bad after he sees that she's kind of distant and rude towards him upon the first meeting. She did this to my sisters first boyfriend years ago. Any ideas please?
& i know they have to meet someday but is it too soon? I wanted to wait another year or so til i'm 21 and done with school so she can take me more seriously but my boyfriend's parents are already asking me when i'm going to introduce their son to my mom. I feel bad because they probably feel like i resent him, when i really don't. I just have a mean mom ! lol She wouldn't even wanna talk on the phone with him. I'll have him on the phone and he just might want to say hi to her & i'll pretend like hes someone i'm really close to and she'll hear a guys voice but push the phone away from her when i hand it to her. Isn't that weird? I know some people are gonna say just sit her down and have them meet but i know how she is and my boyfriend doesn't get it. I dont want him to feel bad after he sees that she's kind of distant and rude towards him upon the first meeting. She did this to my sisters first boyfriend years ago. Any ideas please?