Is it wrong for a married woman to go on weeks vacation alone?

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Julie

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I am a married woman of 6 years but Ive been with my husband for 15 years. Two years ago I took a vacation for a week to london, and i don't mean a girls trip, I mean alone by myself (oh and for those thinking I wanted to or want to go alone for a tryst or something of that discus ting nature your completely wrong) I was smart in my decisions,careful where I went and what I did. My husband had a huge deal with it and flat out told me it is wrong for a married woman to go on vacation alone. We have gone on vacations together too and he does his guys trips 3 times a year. I feel I lead a very hectic life and just wanted that time on my own, to kinda worry about me if that makes sense. We have 3 kids and Im a stay at home mom, I called home and even SKYPE him and the kids every day. I want to go again this coming April and Ill be paying for it out of my own money saved up, but I don't know how to approach him so that he does not get angry with me, I want him to understand that this is for me, that its my time to worry about me, I want to be able to get up when I want, eat when I want, just worry about me for a change as being a mom and living the kind of life I do I always put myself of the back burner and say oh well Ill take care of me later and well never do. So I guess what I am asking is am I wrong for wanting to go on vacation alone, how do I approach him in a positive manner, what would you say or do if your loved one or spouse said I want to go on a vacation alone?
 
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BabeHart

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You say he goes on "guy trips" 3 times a year...so after you tell him you plan on going again, if he fusses, remind him that he leaves you and the kids behind 3 times a year...if he's willing to give up his trips, you'll give up yours...otherwise, he should expect you back on such-and-such-date...

No, it's not wrong for you to want some "me" time whether it's with girlfriends or alone, as long as you aren't betraying your marriage...most people need such time (whether it's a few hours, a day, a weekend, or whatever) to ground and center and not have to think about 'real life' and their responsibilities for a while...

I'd never have the girlie-balls to take a trip like that alone...bravo you!!!
 
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HlJenkins

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Nothing wrong with a little me time. Just make it a short trip like 4 days 3 nights
Just explain that you are a little burnt out and that the short trip will help you become a better more relaxed mother and wife.
 
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DavidSr

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I don't know how you would approach this. It sounds more like a trust issue to me than anything else and he is indicating being insecure. I let my wife go to Illinois and to Canada alone and didn't have any problems or issues about it.
 
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BloomingLilly

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Just be Honest with him and tell him what you just basically told the whole world! He's your husband and you 2 should be able to trust and communicate with each other! Sometimes you need a break from everyday life to refreshen up! There's nothing wrong with it!
 
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babe

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I know of a couple they take seperate vacations they also had second jobs and worked together I know if I had the chance and the money I would go trust me I would go.
 
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