Is it wrong for a married woman to go on weeks vacation alone?

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I am a married woman of 6 years but Ive been with my husband for 15 years. Two years ago I took a vacation for a week to london, and i don't mean a girls trip, I mean alone by myself (oh and for those thinking I wanted to or want to go alone for a tryst or something of that discus ting nature your completely wrong) I was smart in my decisions,careful where I went and what I did. My husband had a huge deal with it and flat out told me it is wrong for a married woman to go on vacation alone. We have gone on vacations together too and he does his guys trips 3 times a year. I feel I lead a very hectic life and just wanted that time on my own, to kinda worry about me if that makes sense. We have 3 kids and Im a stay at home mom, I called home and even SKYPE him and the kids every day. I want to go again this coming April and Ill be paying for it out of my own money saved up, but I don't know how to approach him so that he does not get angry with me, I want him to understand that this is for me, that its my time to worry about me, I want to be able to get up when I want, eat when I want, just worry about me for a change as being a mom and living the kind of life I do I always put myself of the back burner and say oh well Ill take care of me later and well never do. So I guess what I am asking is am I wrong for wanting to go on vacation alone, how do I approach him in a positive manner, what would you say or do if your loved one or spouse said I want to go on a vacation alone?
 
You say he goes on "guy trips" 3 times a year...so after you tell him you plan on going again, if he fusses, remind him that he leaves you and the kids behind 3 times a year...if he's willing to give up his trips, you'll give up yours...otherwise, he should expect you back on such-and-such-date...

No, it's not wrong for you to want some "me" time whether it's with girlfriends or alone, as long as you aren't betraying your marriage...most people need such time (whether it's a few hours, a day, a weekend, or whatever) to ground and center and not have to think about 'real life' and their responsibilities for a while...

I'd never have the girlie-balls to take a trip like that alone...bravo you!!!
 
Nothing wrong with a little me time. Just make it a short trip like 4 days 3 nights
Just explain that you are a little burnt out and that the short trip will help you become a better more relaxed mother and wife.
 
I don't know how you would approach this. It sounds more like a trust issue to me than anything else and he is indicating being insecure. I let my wife go to Illinois and to Canada alone and didn't have any problems or issues about it.
 
Just be Honest with him and tell him what you just basically told the whole world! He's your husband and you 2 should be able to trust and communicate with each other! Sometimes you need a break from everyday life to refreshen up! There's nothing wrong with it!
 
I know of a couple they take seperate vacations they also had second jobs and worked together I know if I had the chance and the money I would go trust me I would go.
 
No, there is nothing wrong with going on vacation by yourself.
 
It's only wrong if it's wrong for YOUR family. Some are fine with it, others are not. There's no right or wrong here.
 
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