Is my friend using me for a free place to stay on vacation?

[justme]

A friend, I haven't seen in about a year came to visit me for the first time in the Caribbean. She arrived at night and the very next day she was here, had plans to go out with this guy she met through a mutual friend of ours via email.

For the most part of the trip, she makes these plans with different guys and "weakly attempt" to encourage me to come along, I decline. For the past 6 days she was here we spent 2 days hanging out together.

I know that I am not jealous, I just feel bad because I think we both had different expectations and unfortunatley it was not communicated. I feel so dissapointed cause I was looking forward to spending time with her and hanging out. I even wasted my vacation days to be home.

She was scheduled to leave today and asked to stay 2 days longer. I will not stop being a friend but. I doubt that I will invite her back.

Is it me? Or it seems as if she is just using me for a free place to stay?

 

[Sarrah]

I'm sure she is! That was very disrespectful of her. Once she's home, I would try to tactfully communicate with her how her behavior made you feel. She does not seem like a very considerate friend.

 

[sassy1]

I agree she is using you for a free place to stay, tell her how you feel and let her know you would not have invited her if you knew she would not have any time for you. Good luck and I hope things work out for both of you, a true friendship is priceless, but should not be one sided.