Is she to young to be making so many decisions about her future with me?

JB

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Alright so my 16-year old girlfriend has fallen madly in love with me. And well I don't blame her I have been very good to her, we are very attracted to each other, and we get along great.

The only problem we seem to run into is her fear of losing me which creates trust issues at times. She thinks if I go to the bar I'm 19 and she can't all she does is worry about me. Saying things like don't get to drunk your going to be around a lot of girls that will want to be all over you because your hot.

And even in college she is afraid of me going to college because I might find a girl my own age and leave her. But I constantly reassure her that I would never hurt her, and the age difference has never bothered me or I would of never asked her out in the first place.

So now as her trust has grown really strong with me and I told her I loved her. She keeps mentioning the future with me, and how she can't wait to move into me. Its almost like shes got her whole life planned out, she has a good government job lined and her dream home pictured in her head with me.

I don't mind this I encourage her but is she going a bit overboard with her trust issues, its almost like she is trying to lock me up. And make sure I'm not going anywhere even though I don't plan to and tell her that. I know shes 16 but she is very mature, she has not had a positive male role model in her life not having a Dad. And her other long term boyfriend broke her heart already. It was one sided love he told her he loved her so he can get laid.

My situation is different I truly love her but isn't it scary when you think if you might leave this girl it would destroy her life. Obviously I don't plan to but she seems to be an all or nothing girl. Shes really great though, almost to good to be true.

Looking for opinions, 10 points for best answer.
 
Wow. I remember being a teenager and wanting my boyfriend to reassure me that he was never going to leave me. Of course he did, but 2 1/2 years later when he dumped me...I was devastated. Sure enough I moved on, and I also learned a valuable lesson. Relationships can change at the drop of a hat. Don't plan your future out, because you are setting yourself up for disappointments. I would tell her she needs to focus on the nice time y'all are having now, because her trust issues could have a negative impact on your relationship in the future. Maybe she'll snap out of it.

EDIT- the guy below me is very right.
 
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