Is this normal behavior?
Both me and a mate where having this discussion in an ethics debate. I don’t think this is normal behavior but she does:
We where discussing a case that happened at my local campus bar so I’d guess everyone concerned is university undergraduate age.
This guy had a misunderstanding and trust issues with this girl (probably erly 20’s) he was seeing. He discussed it with some female friends didn’t know the girl he was seeing (as far as I understood but I’m not sure). As far as I can gather he told them he couldn’t understand this girl’s actions and thought she might be messing with him.
So they advised him to act standoffish and distant INCASE she was messing with him.
Now my friend argues that this is normal – that people’s loyalty is to their friends and not to other people they don’t know so they don’t need to take anything into consideration apart from protecting their friend.
However I regard it as highly immoral. Basically I regard the basis of morality to be something along the lines of ‘treat others as you would like to be treated, regardless of whether they are your friend or not’. In this vain I argued that the female friends should have at least wondered ‘what if this person is not messing’ and from this attempt to empathies, any semblance of intellectual integrity would naturally give birth to the desire to find out more. Thus the better (in my opinion) advice would have been to ‘try to find out more’ or ‘ask some of the girl’s other friends what they think’ ect.
So was what the female friends did normal? Was it moral or immoral?
Disclaimer: All the details where overheard at a bar and so may or may not be accurate or true, but I'm not really interested in the truth of it. It works as a thought experiment no matter what
Both me and a mate where having this discussion in an ethics debate. I don’t think this is normal behavior but she does:
We where discussing a case that happened at my local campus bar so I’d guess everyone concerned is university undergraduate age.
This guy had a misunderstanding and trust issues with this girl (probably erly 20’s) he was seeing. He discussed it with some female friends didn’t know the girl he was seeing (as far as I understood but I’m not sure). As far as I can gather he told them he couldn’t understand this girl’s actions and thought she might be messing with him.
So they advised him to act standoffish and distant INCASE she was messing with him.
Now my friend argues that this is normal – that people’s loyalty is to their friends and not to other people they don’t know so they don’t need to take anything into consideration apart from protecting their friend.
However I regard it as highly immoral. Basically I regard the basis of morality to be something along the lines of ‘treat others as you would like to be treated, regardless of whether they are your friend or not’. In this vain I argued that the female friends should have at least wondered ‘what if this person is not messing’ and from this attempt to empathies, any semblance of intellectual integrity would naturally give birth to the desire to find out more. Thus the better (in my opinion) advice would have been to ‘try to find out more’ or ‘ask some of the girl’s other friends what they think’ ect.
So was what the female friends did normal? Was it moral or immoral?
Disclaimer: All the details where overheard at a bar and so may or may not be accurate or true, but I'm not really interested in the truth of it. It works as a thought experiment no matter what