Is this stalking or just joking around?

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I had an incident two days ago that right now I'm letting cool off, but what happened is that in the morning before classes, me and my best friend were by our lockers and I recieved a rather naughty text message from one of the guys I hang out with. This guy is attatched to me and sends me frequent naughty text messages like the one mentioned earlier, even if I told him that I don't like him in that manner and that I would rather be called by my own name instead of "dear" or babe". He once tried to grab me in the hallway to get a kiss from me, but I had to back away because I didn't want to kiss him.

Anyways my best friend saw it and she got concerned so she texted him via my phone, telling him to stop saying these things and to leave me alone. When the bell rang to go to homeroom, I felt as if I should say sorry for what happened, but then he replied with "If your friends take this to the office, I think I'm gonna kill them!" (To be honest, I don't know what intention that was put in.)
Later, I tell another few close friends of mine who were also really concerned when AP psychology was about to start. I took out my phone (bad idea) to show one of my most trusted friends the evidence of what happened, and then the teacher ironically told me to bring it to the office. While in the office, I could have explained what happened and this guy could have gotten in trouble, or even charged because he technically used threatening words, but I didn't and just let it cool down until I could figure out what to do. I know I have friends who would protect me no matter what about this situation. Then at the end of the day, I apologise and collect my phone from the office's inventory and go home - to hear my mother yelling at me because she thinks the whole matter was my fault.
How should I handle this? I know its peculiar to ask this on Yahoo but I just need advice from someone who isn't involved in this because I want to know the opinion of people on the outside.
 
I have friends who would protect me no matter what about this situation.

For your own safety, I must point out how naive this statement could be. Do you live with your friends, are they with you ALL the time, crazy people exist sweet heart. protect yourself.
 
I think he is just flirting with you a different way, people have different ways e.g. people throw things at the one they want to flirt to, or talk dirty or otherways i just say to let him continue, no harm until your friend reacted
 
The guy is Stalking you in its abusive, even if he is your friend in some way he shouldn't be taking liberties by sending you naughty messages when you've already told him that you don't appreciate it. The fact that your friends reacted the way they did tells me that he's over the line. I am also concerned in your message when you tell me that he's threatening language towards them for potential reporting something that he did. In my experience this type of man is dangerous, it is only a matter of time until he does something that's going to get him in trouble with the law, don't leave yourself in the position to be that something.
 
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