right here's the story, me and my girlfriend keep arguing! and it's really starting to get to me. some of the stuff she says can get really personal and nasty, this really upsets me because i don't wanna here some off the stuff she says from someone i love. she has been going through a really hard time at the moment like school problems, family problems etc. and i'm always the one who is there for her and really tries to make her feel better, and comfort her, and she always takes it out on me, i end up getting upset because she ends up saying stuff she doesn't mean, and i end up telling her she's upsetting me by saying it and then she just says i'm being selfish and only caring about my own feelings and ends up starting a argument! whatever i say to her doesn't make it any better and she just keeps going and going, getting more personal saying stuff she knows is going to upset me. i know she doesn't mean it because on the other hand she's always telling me how much she loves me, how much she's missing me, how much she just wants to spend her life with me. i really love this girl,i've never felt this way about anyone else before in my life and tbh she just shines above everyone else and in my eyes she's just the most amazing person i've ever met.i really don't know what to do! she's been going through sh** atm and and these arguments are just making things worse for her!! even though she starts them, i just can't help but feel like the bad person, i care about her so much and i just feel i'm making things worse for her. i just think i might just let her have a go at me and just put up with it and try to to react to what she says, because by arguing back she just goes mental, saying stuff like you don't love me, you only care about your self, fu** off and get out of my life, fu** spending my life with you, find someone else, i know she doesn't mean it, but it still hurts, i think this is ripping apart this relationship. also all of these arguments are through fu**ing text!!!!!!! i can't stand arguing through text i never can say what i really want to and always end up word stuff wrong and just never being able to get my point across and i'm really slow at texting and she's a girl and can text massive 5 page texts in like a couple of seconds, i tell her this and try to ring her or meet up but she never answers and says you doesn't wanna meet me!! i just don't know what to do!! pleas help!!! p.s my writing skills are pretty crap and knowing me there's prob quits a bit of mistakes so don't try correcting them!!!
keep arguing with girlfriend... help!!!!!?
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Sounds ruff. You really like her so don't brake up with her. When you find it that she is in a good mood express your feelings to her. About how she hurts you when she talks like that to you. Tell her that you really love her and don't want to let go of her. Also ask her if she needs help with school work sometimes so her problems are not so big.
sorry chris, it was just too hard to read.
but ... if you are always arguing, especially over little things,
and if the intensity of the arguments keeps going up, then ...
the chemistry is not there between you.
for both your sakes, you should end the relationship (politely)
and both move on to something that will work. in the end,
you both will be much happier.
but ... if you are always arguing, especially over little things,
and if the intensity of the arguments keeps going up, then ...
the chemistry is not there between you.
for both your sakes, you should end the relationship (politely)
and both move on to something that will work. in the end,
you both will be much happier.
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She's going through a tough time and its natural for any girl to be angered easily by anything when there upset. I understand where she's coming from and you need to stand by her and help her through it. From what I've read, you seem to be doing a good job at it. If its too much for you to handle, talk to her about it. Tell her that all you want is for her to be happy again and will do anything to help her, even if it means taking a break and letting her get her life in order. If she resists help from you then maybe she doesn't want it. You seem like a sweet guy and i know you'll make the right choice.
I don't know much about having a girlfriend because I'm a female, but I've had enough relationship experience and not to mention I've been a girl my entire life. 
Considering I don't know your girlfriend, I can't say for sure what her problem is but! I used to get pissed off and take it out on my boyfriend or whoever was closest, without even realizing it. Stress can cause a lot of people to do and say stupid things. Also, is she really just blowing up at you and you're just sitting there or are you arguing back at her? If you arguing back at her, just.. Stop lol! I know it is super hard to not get angry and/or upset and be quiet but sometimes letting her just cool off is the best thing to do. If you are arguing back, that's why they keep happening. Next time she argues with you, myyyy best advice is to zip it and when she's cooled off just give her a hug or kiss and tell her how much you love her, go out of your way to do extra sweet things like flowers or just doing something cute. If she's stressed, you should be her getaway from it. Hope everything works out bud! Goodluck, I know women can be crazy and confusing.
Considering I don't know your girlfriend, I can't say for sure what her problem is but! I used to get pissed off and take it out on my boyfriend or whoever was closest, without even realizing it. Stress can cause a lot of people to do and say stupid things. Also, is she really just blowing up at you and you're just sitting there or are you arguing back at her? If you arguing back at her, just.. Stop lol! I know it is super hard to not get angry and/or upset and be quiet but sometimes letting her just cool off is the best thing to do. If you are arguing back, that's why they keep happening. Next time she argues with you, myyyy best advice is to zip it and when she's cooled off just give her a hug or kiss and tell her how much you love her, go out of your way to do extra sweet things like flowers or just doing something cute. If she's stressed, you should be her getaway from it. Hope everything works out bud! Goodluck, I know women can be crazy and confusing.