Me and my friend have a very fragile relationship. How do I wish her Happy Birthday?

[rubberduckyofdeath]

Basically, we had a very emotional fall-out a few months ago over the fact that my depressive attitude was suffocating and she just wanted to have fun with other people. I have calmed down quite a bit since then and I feel like I should be forgiven. We don't really speak anymore but we're still being civil to each other. It's not a good idea to bring up the past and talk about what happened because we are both trying to move on. The thing is I still care about her and I miss her friendship so much. It is her birthday soon and I want to know whether I should just wish her a simple Happy Birthday or send a little message with a bit more than that. I don't want to write a whole emotional speech and seem all needy but I want her to know that I still value her as a person and I want her to know she doesn't have to hate me anymore. What should I say?

I was thinking about sending it a little early because I don't want to spoil her actual birthday. Something like "Hi. It's a bit early but Happy Birthday for the weekend. Hope you have a great day and hope this year is a special one for ya!"

Shall I leave it at that or shall I write a bit more like "I know we don't really speak much anymore but..." and then something else?

I'm worried she'll just ignore it or reject it.

 

[noahandmiguel]

I think that you should just leave it as a simple birthday message. The fact that you took the time to send her a birthday card, or whatever, should be enough for her to realize that you still care, even if a little, about her. Don't be afraid if she rejects it, if she does, then it's a sing that trying to re-establish contact with her is not worth your while.