LuxyInLove
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My fiance and I are planning on getting married in the next few months, pending his divorce from his ex. We have been together 16 months now and to me it's been obvious since day 1 that his parents are not happy about our relationship. This has always made me feel uncomfortable when we visit them, thankfully, it isn't too often that we visit them. This is a BIG source of strife for me in my relationship with my fiance.
My mother in law is controlling and meddlesome. She calls my fiance at least 1-5 times on any given day. She criticizes the way I have raised my daughter as I was a single parent for 10 years before meeting my fiance. My daughter has ADHD and is extremely hyper and boisterous much of the time and tends to take it up a notch when under stress as well, such as visits with the in-laws. She criticizes the gifts he has given me "Oh, he shouldn't have spent that much on you", my clothing, what I make for dinner, everything! I have really tried to build a relationship with her to no avail.
The past few days here have been very trying. My fiance was supposed to go back to work this week only to find out at the end of last week that he had lost his six-figure job along with 65 other people in his department. I almost feel like his mom is happy about it since it gives here the ability to give him money to "help things out". I have been looking for a job for the last few months with very little success. I went to talk to her about things yesterday. She was absolutely hostile toward me, telling me that I needed to "get the "f" out of his life, it's stupid for us to get married" and even went so far as to say my daughter was "baggage"!. I was actually speechless for once in my life and left their home without saying anything else.
I had a heart to heart with my fiance last night. I told him I would in no way interfere with their relationship and that he was welcome to go over there any time he wanted to with his daughter. I told him that I would no longer visit or have any communication whatsoever with his parents from this point on.
My question is: How do I deal with these situations in the future since I KNOW there will be more incidents with my MIL? I am really at the end of my rope with her!
His parents aren't mad about him still being married. They hated her even more than me! They were formally married 4 months and the divorce has taken more than 2 years (and still not divorced yet!)
My mother in law is controlling and meddlesome. She calls my fiance at least 1-5 times on any given day. She criticizes the way I have raised my daughter as I was a single parent for 10 years before meeting my fiance. My daughter has ADHD and is extremely hyper and boisterous much of the time and tends to take it up a notch when under stress as well, such as visits with the in-laws. She criticizes the gifts he has given me "Oh, he shouldn't have spent that much on you", my clothing, what I make for dinner, everything! I have really tried to build a relationship with her to no avail.
The past few days here have been very trying. My fiance was supposed to go back to work this week only to find out at the end of last week that he had lost his six-figure job along with 65 other people in his department. I almost feel like his mom is happy about it since it gives here the ability to give him money to "help things out". I have been looking for a job for the last few months with very little success. I went to talk to her about things yesterday. She was absolutely hostile toward me, telling me that I needed to "get the "f" out of his life, it's stupid for us to get married" and even went so far as to say my daughter was "baggage"!. I was actually speechless for once in my life and left their home without saying anything else.
I had a heart to heart with my fiance last night. I told him I would in no way interfere with their relationship and that he was welcome to go over there any time he wanted to with his daughter. I told him that I would no longer visit or have any communication whatsoever with his parents from this point on.
My question is: How do I deal with these situations in the future since I KNOW there will be more incidents with my MIL? I am really at the end of my rope with her!
His parents aren't mad about him still being married. They hated her even more than me! They were formally married 4 months and the divorce has taken more than 2 years (and still not divorced yet!)