my best friend, who i love more than anything, is now my roommate and i'm just...

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...venting/asking a question?? my best friend, who i love more than anything, is giving me some problems as a roommate. she never cleans the dishes, she leaves the place a mess, and she is probably the messiest person i know. ive lived with her for almost two years now and ive mentioned a few times that she needs to help out when it comes to cleaning, but she either would get really offended or do it that one time and never do it again. and to top it off she has a dog that is really cute, but drives me insane! i just don't want this to end the friendship, because i think she feels that i'm some neat freak who is nagging her all the time. (which isn't the case) Should i stop asking her to clean and just get over the fact that i'll always be the one taking responsibility?
 
You'd be better off getting a guy roomate who has the same interests. If this girl was truly your best friend, she would respect you. Now you have become her domestic slave. She is not your friend. She is a user. Get a new roomate.
 
You two sound like really good friends. She should be able to understand you. Stand your ground, but don't be bossy.
You need to have a talk with her. one to one. Tell how how you feel about her and how she makes you feel.
If she can't accept that, she/you should move out ASAP, but remain to be friends. A "no hard feelings" sorta thing.
 
instead of every now and than just asking her, have a little talk with her. sit down talk. shell get the message
 
If she won't pull her weight with the cleaning then leave her dishes and just keep yours seperate and carry on as normal. She will have to clean them eventually. As for the other cleaning, tell her that if she doesn't pick up her things, you will throw them out, and do it!

Get her to take her dog out more to give it some stimulation and train it so it won't be annoying.

Make up a work rota, with tasks for each of you to do during the week. Have an agreement that if anything isn't done, then the person will be penalised. They may have to pay extra for groceries, fuel bills or simply a take away at the weekend. Just order expensive dishes to teach her a lesson!

If nothing works, then start looking for a new place to live, good luck.
 
Yes- if u wanna be her roommate & friend then give up on the cleaning, if you can't live w that then just be her friend.. that's my advice, hope it helps! :)
 
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