My Bf Argues Too Much idk Wat To do?

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Okay me& my bf have been going out 1year and 11 months tommorow we're 2 years.but he argues with me all the time he says he tries to change but its hard! I LOVE him and he loves me but sometimes he just hurts me alot emotionally though. its hard to trust him cus he has lied to me but has NEVER cheated on me sometimes i get tyred of arguing but when he does something he always tries to blame me and then at the end he says he's sorry and how thankful he is that i have kept up with his bullshit! i always let him know how i feel when he hurts me but idk...i dont wanna leave him but idk wat to say to him for him to stop or how to change it help me pl
 
Well it seems like you guys are pretty serious and if you plan on having a future together you need to set things straight cause I mean who wants a hurtful relationship for the rest of their life? I had similar problems with my boyfriend but you need to tell him seriously that if he doesn't pull his act together , your relationship has to end. Now I know that's not what you want to happen so if he genuinely cares about you and your relationship with him he'll put in effort to really fix him
But if he doesn't.....it may be time to rethink it. Hope this helps!
 
This relationship is on the rocks...If he has lied to you it will take a long time for you to trust him. When you care for someone and they lie to you, you stop and think about everything he has said and try to sort out the truth from the lies. I am sure it will come to the point that you do not trust him because you do not know when he is telling the truth or not. It is very hard to have a relationship with someone you do not trust. You say he has not cheated...are you sure? Is that what he told you? Was he telling the truth? If so how do you know? To overcome this will take a very long time and the lies have to stop.

If he can not face the fact that he is in the wrong when he clearly is and wants to blame you it is not a good sign. I have seen these type of guys to start arguments just so they can storm out of the house and go do what they want for the night, then come home and put the blame on their girlfriend. Remember it takes two to argue. Do not fall into that trap. Just ignore him when he starts in and keep yourself calm. Whatever the situation you can respond what you think in a clam voice and be done with it. If this continues I suggest for you to separate for awhile and see other people, It does not seem as he respects you and you need to find someone that does. You do not want to live the rest of your life arguing with a liar, it is a no win situation and happiness will never be the result. I know you said you did not want to leave him but you can not change him and mold him into something he isn't. Please think about what I have said and remember you deserve so much more in your life. Good luck.
 
You can't change a man. He either chooses to change or gets worse. If he's constantly arguing and blaming you, it sounds like you're dealing with emotional and mental abuse. It is no better than physical abuse. Sure you don't have bruises and cuts for the world to see, but you are being scarred emotionally. An abuser is always sorry after he/she does the abusing, and it is always blamed on the person receiving the abuse. You don't have to put up with this and I hope you will get enough self respect to get out of the relationship. I can tell you from personal experience that it does not get better. I can also tell you that most emotional batterers will eventually escalate to physical abuse. Get out. Get out now. Love does not hurt and misery is NOT a natural part of love.
 
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