My bf has been away for a month travelling in Asia - he's back and he's

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as cold as ice!? We've been together for 2 yrs and 3 months & I recently temp moved in with him whilst waiting for my flat to complete. He's offered for me to move in though so I accepted. I've been in his flat for just over a month now, which is same time for when he's been away. I've missed him a lot and was surprised to see how his behaving recently. Not that he's not behaved like this before - he tends to go icy - but never understood why. He's been back for 2 days now, and he keeps rejecting me - no cuddles, no kisses (i only had 2 smacks), let alone sex. He's going back to his parents for xmas and back here again for NY, but will not tell me whether he wants to celeb NYE with me or not. I've read the book "The Secret" and tries to applies the principles by staying positive and being grateful, knowing what you want and focusing on that - but if someone you love seems like blatantly pushing you away - how can you even do that? Help, i want to understand him and wants him to be normal but i really don't know what to do...
 
What parts of Asia was he visiting? Bangkok or pretty much anywhere in Thailand? Weird things can happen there. He might have gotten a little frisky with one of the locals only to find out later that she was really a he. Yikes! Something like that could certainly make me reassess my interest in doing the nasty.

How well do you trust that he was faithful on his trip? He might have come back and is feeling ashamed of what he did and unworthy to be with you anymore.

It could be that you might need to prime the pump. Try giving him a special wake up call one morning (and by special wake up call I mean one that involves his flagpole and your, well, I'll leave it to your imagination).

But the best advice I can give is to recommend that the two of you sit down and talk about this. You've been going together for 2 1/4 years. Talking to each other is something yall should be comfortable with. Ask him point blank wtf is wrong.
 
you better ask him straight up what the hell the deal is because your not gonna get the real truth outta the fools that answer questions here. that book doesnt work for situations like this because your not taking initiative to find a solution.
 
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