my boyfreind enjoys hunting?

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hayley

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i moved overseas for my boyfreind n i just found out that he likes to hunt defenceless animals for fun. im so upset. im a member of the animal liberation n i cant be with someone who would murder someone n he rubbed it in like it didnt matter.i said if he ever murders again i would leave him n that i will always see dirty blood on his hands. he said im crazy n left our house. i want someone who couldnt possibly even think about becoming a murderer. im disgusted in this.he had no empathy on the subject. i said that if i saw him murder i would have him evicted n he said im crazy. the whole time he smirked like its a joke. there are so many fun things to do in this world so why cut the throats of animals, shoot there little bodies n act like they mean nothing.should i leave him
 
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MelC1

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Me and my now husband had this same problem for a long time. He is a hunter and I'm against it but then I got to a point where I realized I had to either love him for what he was or leave because you shouldn't change someone into something you want. I decided I'd rather live my life with him then without regardless of his hobby but I do have rules. I ask that he doesn't talk about it around me I will never fully accept it or condone it and I never want to see a dead animal in or around the house. So far it has worked out great for us. Don't give up a great guy because of his hobby as long as he respects what he kills and eats what he kills then it really isn't that bad. Don't get me wrong I still don't like it but I've learned that that is what he does and how he was raised and who am I to say that's wrong if there was something I grew up doing there would be NO way I'd give it up because he didn't like it. GL!
 
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lalala

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cut their throats? wasn't aware hunters do that...
I also wouldn't call it murder...whatever

You moved overseas for him. That's a pretty huge commitment. How did you not know he did this?

Anyway, it seems like you're having a conflict in your fundamental beliefs. There are two routes to take.
1) You can both make concessions for each other to reach a compromise. For example, you pretend you don't know he hunts so long as he only hunts for population control in season. In exchange, he cuts down on the hunting, follows that compromise, and leaves everything hunting-related outside of your home.
2) You can't reach a compromise and it's over because your belief systems are too different.
 
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cheesebrady

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well hunting is one thing, sadism is another. men are hardwired to hunt and kill and provide for their families, doing what comes naturally to the male mind does not make your boyfriend a bad person.

on the other hand, if he likes hunting because he likes killing things and making them suffer, that's another matter. surely you can observe the difference in your boyfriend. does he like pulling the wings off flies or does he swerve to hit gophers or other small animals while driving? those are the huge red flags and dumping offenses in my opinion.
 
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MML

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Yes. That's like being a strict church goer married to a pot smoker who won't go to church with you on Sunday! Of course you have to leave him. You have very strict feelings about the hunting and needless killings of innocent animals and you are with a hunter? No way. His actions will drive you nuts and he's not going to change and neither are you, so I think you know what you need to do.
 
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Shane

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Be happy he doesn't hunt the rarest game of all.....MAN!.

That would be such a creepy movie. A dude gets his girlfriend to move over seas and than brings her to like some random island and tells her to run because he plans to hunt her for game.
 
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andyc

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He knows who you are now and if he didn't respect your feelings? what's our problem ... move out and move on in your life.
 
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timmy

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Slap his face and leave him

then kick his balls just for good measure

Sounds like he has a complex about being in power which means he is not a man at all but an insect. Leave him and get a real man
 
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"A"

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So you are asking this question because you are considering compromising your most deeply held beliefs for a guy?

Your choice.

We all make decisions about what is a deal breaker and what isn't. If you have no line, you have no convictions.
 
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