We live in my boyfriends house. We just got engaged after three years and he JUST told me for the first time, that he loves me. It's been a very long difficult road but it has been worth it. I am open and honest about everything we do, but I'm a little frustrated. When I tell him how I feel about some things, he just ignores me and says he's not going to respond to my stupid question. Today, he made a comment that sounded like he thought I treated his son poorly. It's very important to me to know if I am giving off the wrong impression; afterall, perception is reality. He got angry and told me the question was stupid and started getting agitated with me. I asked him again, "I'm only asking if you think I would treat your son poorly". He ignored me and I told him that I could not live the rest of my life with him acting like my feelings were invalid. He said, "leave then." I feel like I am forcing a square peg into a round hole. I feel like it took three years for him to tell me he loves me...maybe he doesn't really care about me. Maybe I am pushing everything. I think telling me to leave is a low blow when we are arguing and it's hurtful. I'm starting to wonder if I should leave. Will he ever listen to me? I don't want to resent him for the way he is, so I have to decide if I can live with him the way he is. I don't think I can be happy knowing that he can just tell me to leave and it comes out of his mouth more easily than "I love you".
My boyfried tells me to leave when we argue?
Lisa
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It will only get worse, three years and the i love you came after or around the same time as the engagement? That's messed up...get out now, he's not going to be nicer when you're married and the last scrap of feeling that he 'needs to impress you' as a girlfriend is gone.