I have been dating my boyfriend Keith for 7 and a half months now. He's 18 and I'm almost 17. We fight ALL the time. Over the smallest things too. But a lot of the time he gives me a reason to be mean to him. He makes it really hard to trust him. He works with his ex girlfriend (also his first serious girlfriend) and they're friends which I am totally fine with. But one time over the winter he shoveled a path that said "i love you" to her car.. I know he doesn't love her like that anymore but it still wasn't right. He also told me he still "loves" her, not like he loves me though. Only because she was his first serious relationship. That's understandable I suppose but it still hurts. Anyways, he checks out girls in front of me all the time then tells me about it, he tells me how hot my friends are, he tells me about his sex dreams he has with MY FRIENDS (he had one about his ex girlfriend as well about a week ago). One time he and I tried hooking one of my friends up with his friend but it didn't work out. He thought my friend was hot and he wanted to hang out with her and I told him he couldn't. It was disrespectful towards me. He seriously did not understand what was so wrong with hanging out with her and she didn't see what was wrong with it either. Clearly I am not friends with her anymore and I still hold that against him. One time after Ski Club he raced one of his friends that was a girl), then she tried to make out with him. He told her no, and he told me about it the next day which I was happy about because he didn't hide it. But I wanted to confront her about it, but he wouldn't let me because he didn't want to "break her trust and lose her as a friend" which REALLY made me mad. He's also sat down with his ex before work and ate with her which also bothered me. I'm honestly surprised he hasn't cheated on me. It's just so hard to trust him and he gets so mad when I say that because he never understands why. Now he isn't the only bad one in this relationship. I do suffer from bipolar disorder and about a month ago I did get per scribed medicine for it which has been helping so much with my up and down moods.
Both my parents dislike him because of how awful he treats me. I try to tell them he's not the only bad guy in the relationship but they don't listen. All my friends try to butt into my relationship problems and I know they just want to help but it's becoming so annoying I can't stand being told what to do anymore.
We have been on a break for about a month and a half now and he keeps saying we will get back together. Two days ago I told him it was over because I just couldn't take it anymore. Even after I told him that he still didn't leave my house until two hours later. He started crying on my porch and told me maybe we just need time apart. I agreed and he left. He texted me "I love you" around 2 AM that night. But since then we haven' talked.
Keep in mind that his dad left him and his mom when he was a baby, so he really hasn't had a father figure in his life and his mom doesn't seem to be very much help. His mom is a fantastic mother though and I've never been so close to a boyfriends mom. Sometimes I like her better than my mom...
It's clear both of us want our relationship to be able to work, but at the same time we want what's best for us. When our relationship first started out it was fantastic. Neither of us are sure where it went downhill.
I'm just asking for advice and opinions. I don't want to be told want to do, I just want to know what people would do if they were in this situation. I love him and I want to be with him, but I want to do the unselfish thing and do what's best for the both of us, not just what I want.
Both my parents dislike him because of how awful he treats me. I try to tell them he's not the only bad guy in the relationship but they don't listen. All my friends try to butt into my relationship problems and I know they just want to help but it's becoming so annoying I can't stand being told what to do anymore.
We have been on a break for about a month and a half now and he keeps saying we will get back together. Two days ago I told him it was over because I just couldn't take it anymore. Even after I told him that he still didn't leave my house until two hours later. He started crying on my porch and told me maybe we just need time apart. I agreed and he left. He texted me "I love you" around 2 AM that night. But since then we haven' talked.
Keep in mind that his dad left him and his mom when he was a baby, so he really hasn't had a father figure in his life and his mom doesn't seem to be very much help. His mom is a fantastic mother though and I've never been so close to a boyfriends mom. Sometimes I like her better than my mom...
It's clear both of us want our relationship to be able to work, but at the same time we want what's best for us. When our relationship first started out it was fantastic. Neither of us are sure where it went downhill.
I'm just asking for advice and opinions. I don't want to be told want to do, I just want to know what people would do if they were in this situation. I love him and I want to be with him, but I want to do the unselfish thing and do what's best for the both of us, not just what I want.