My boyfriend is addicted to the internet?

[DirtyPimptress]

My boyfriend and I live together. I am currently 6 months pregnant with his first child (this problem was happening way before i got pregnant though). He does have a job, and if this wasnt a problem i think our relationship would be almost perfect. My boyfriend spends most his free time on the internet. I mean a ridiculous amount of time just playing games. He gets home from work at 10 pm and doesnt get off the computer until 4 am. On his days off he spends most of the day on the computer. Every day its the same thing. Get up go to work then come home and spend the rest of the time on the computer, or if he isnt working get up and get on the computer, get off only to eat use the restroom and occasionally smoke a cigarette. I am at a lose, i dont know what to do. I have begged and pleaded with him to spend time with me. I have told him its either the computer or me, and he promises it will change and it never does. Now when i ask him to spend time with me he gets mad at me, and he even told me there are some days he doesnt even want to spend time with me, that he would rather be on the computer. I love him so much, and i cant find any solutions, i have tried everything. All he does is ignore me. I have even tried to get into the game with him, but its just not my cup of tea. I am tired of having to repeat anything i say 50 times before he answers. Oh and god forbid i ask him to do anything around the house it will never get done, he wont even pick up his own clothes! I just feel second best to the stupid internet game! Please any help would be much appreciated!!!!!

 

[lolo28]

I am having the same prob with my boyfriend, but he works from home though i dont see the money lol...so it is a bit the same situation, i have getting very frustated, but i think the best way to deal with situations like this since you are pregnant, try and give him some space i mean just try and ignore him when he make himself available to you, go out with your friends, famil, shopping or something make him miss you too.... that is how i deal with it with my boyfriend i just ignore him then he comes around saying i am ignoring him lol which i find funny then he try and make time for when he can...if that would help, i guess when he misses you too then you can tell him that is how it feels when he ignores you then you two can take it from there, crying and begging never solve the problem it makes it worse i know you are pregnant and you need him to help you cope with it , but i must tell you its not easy for him he is trying to cope with it in his own way, some men are like that....all this will change when the baby comes trust me! hope my advice would help and goodluck

 

[Unregistered]

i have the same problem i just let him know how i feel, i and i try to meet him half way like maybe instead of the whole day on the computer maybe two hours, i also to try getting into the game he play but it not my type, his excuse i because there nothing better to do. so i suggest other things we could do but it take too tango. i feel u it is very frustrating . i had this problem with a ex and what really work for me was leaving him. and then he came back to me but i gave him a hard time and he had to give up his game so he did for awhile.....evantually we broke up cause of addiction to the video game. but since u try telling him to stop maybe u should find ur own hobbies i know easier said then done and become the busy one instead of him maybe he learn to apprecated u more and hopefully everything would work out for u and the baby

 

[Unregistered]

Help

Hello, I thought I was the only one going through this. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and i'm 5 1/2 months pregnant with our 2nd child. I have spent the first 3 months of my pregnancy in and out of hospital with Hyperemesis and when not at Hospital I had been staying at my parent's house because I have dogs at home and I couldn't stand the smell of them. Anyway, at 3 1/2 months we moved in together to our new house. Since then I have been feeling completely rejected because he spends so many hours playing Guild Wars. He works but when he finishes work he goes straight into the game. I come home from work and he stays on the game. We have dinner together and as soon as he finishes eating he goes back on the game and leaves me there eating by myself. I go to bed very early usually at 10:00 p.m. and he stays online until 3.00 a.m. if he is off work the following day he stays online until 5:00 a.m. approx. 2 Fridays ago he had just finished work and we ate a takeaway - he was chewing his last chip and he flew to the PC - I got so angry that I confronted him about this - His reaction was 'Okay I've had enough of your attitude I'm going to my dad's' and he actually went out with a friend and didn't come back until 5:30 a.m. (first time in 7 years he has gone out by himself). I have cried so much and I am really thinking about leaving him pregnant or not but I don't want my 6 year old daughter to go through hell. 4 days ago we sat down talked bout things etc. we decided to change certain things bout eachother one of them was his 'addiction' to the PC. 4 days later nothing has changed, if he sits down for 1/2 an hour with me to watch TV I feel that he feels like 'Ok i've spent some time with her, now I can go back to my PC' its horrible and I am scared I am going into depression. Please can someone advise me? Thanks

 

[Unregistered]

This sounds just like my situation, after 3 years I am now FED UP with the damn computer addiction, I am moving on with my life, thats ultimately the only thing that one can do, find something to entertain yourself with, keep yourself busy, I have found a lover for some sex and romance (he won't even tear himself away from the computer for that) so without disrupting my life too much, I will see that my needs are met from elsewhere.

Good luck ladies!!!!

 

[Unregistered]

My boyfriend is the same way :/ He'll never spend time with me he never cleans up after his self and he leaves his cloths laying around! I mean it's like living with a 23 yr old kid! When I get on to him for being on the computer too much or if I get mad when he's being a bully he says that I'm no fun and that I am boring! I wait on him hand and foot I do his laundry clean up his messes and pick up his cloths and obviously in order for me to be fun and un boring is being a pervert and if I say it's either me or the computer I know he's going to choose the computer and sometimes I just want to breakdown and cry. We've been together for almost 3 and a half years and I don't know what to do! It's hard to let go but I don't know what else to do and I don't know if couples therapy is going to work