My boyfriend is not willing to be affectionate with me unless I argue with him

[Lisa]

about it. What is the deal? For example, I have been dating him for 4 years and when I get home from work I come in for a quick kiss and he immediately pulls away and won't kiss me back. It makes me feel undesirable, and when I ask him about it he avoids answering the question by joking around or coming up with excuses. It is also a wrestling match when it comes to any type of cuddling even a hug. I thought I possibly might be too clingy, but I'm not asking all the time. I am worried because it is important to me and he doesn't seem to recognize it. Am I being over analytical and insecure
or is he just not that in to me?

 

[sara]

If he has always been this way, I wouldn't expect much to change since that is how he is. You can't expect for pple to change. When you expect anything, you are bound to experience dissappointment.

 

[Chocolate_Hottie92]

Uhh, if yall been together for 4 years already, then obviously he is into you maybe he's just not an affectionate person in general. I say kinda just hold back on the affection on your part and see if there's any response to that from him. But if its really bothering that much, maybe you should take that into consideration. Do you really wanna be with someone that isn't putting much effort into you? Just sayin.