My boyfriend relies on smoking marijuana on a daily basis... help!?

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hanna

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From reading other posts, I'm aware that there aren't any chemicals in marijuana that it addictive, yet it is the psychological changes that the smoker is after.

My boyfriend and I have known each other for four years and we just started dating about three months ago. Before we started dating, I told him that I don't smoke and it's something I don't want in my life, especially when I get older. He seemed to understand and in the first month of us dating, he didn't smoke. We would go To parties and he would get the offer, but never took it.

Now he'd rather smoke than spend time with me. He said That he gets the offer, so he takes it, not that he's searching for the feeling. He says that it's just apart of who he is and I need to accept it. I tell him how I feel about it and what my concerns are, but it seems like he doesn't really care.

Is there anything I can say to help him realize that this is changing him and he should at least try to take my feelings into consideration? I would think that if he loves me as much as he says he does, this wouldn't be such a difficult discussion.
 
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SanDiegoGuy

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I think that instead of trying to convince him otherwise and trying to change him, you should just tell him that you said from the start that you didn't want to date a stoner, he is one, so you're done... Goodbye. The end.
 
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chris

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don't try to control him. if he's like me, then he's fine. some guys smoke way too much. IMO more than twice a day is too much.

I'm 20, do it to unwind towards the end of my day, or when all my work and school and homework is done. sometimes I'll study high and actually memorize a lot more. there are not any long term effects unless he's doin it all day. I had a girl who once tried to make me quit and I said to her "look, if I was smoking before class after class, before work after work, when I wake up, before I go to so and so (get where I'm going here) THEN you can tell me to stop, until then, I'm pulling a 3.5 and in a private college doing exceptionally well."

bottom line if he has it under control and he's not doing it too much, then accept it. if he is doing it too much during the day and being lazy and fat then do something about it. good luck
 
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