My boyfriend tipped the lounge up from under me in an arguement :((((?

[JeskaLovegrove]

...I was argueing with my partner over him not showing me enough effectionate, im ALWAYS feeling like he never wants me nor never interested in me etc etc, I told him when he was laying down in bed at 2pm wanting to go to sleep cause he was 'tired' & he just sounded ignorant about it all & seemed to not even care & just said to me; 'we need to break up' & when he said that, I didnt hear him properly so I said; 'what did you just say?' & he responded with; 'I said we need to F'n break up, didnt you F'n here me or something' <<<< he spoke to me like $hit, then I took the blanket off him saying; 'get up now & sort this out with me' & when I pulled the blanket off him, he got up real fast & angry & tipped the lounge up on me, I feel backwards, hit my head on the door frame, I have a bruise on my leg, a cut on that toe, I hit my head & it has a lump on it, I also strained my lower back, I pulled a muscle, & in the middle of my back is extremely sore I cant even walk. literally. & I have a sore shoulder, < that was all from him tipping me up off the lounge like that all cause he didnt want to hear my feelings & just wanted to go to sleep cause he was 'tired' & didnt want to deal with it, what do you think of him? what would you do if your boyfriend did this to you? hes 22 & so am I, I cant take him treating me like this anymore but I keep making up excuses in my head not to leave him, ive been with him for 7yrs - nothing changes with him, & even if he does, its only temporarily.
I know this is the wrong category for this type of Q, but I dont seem to be getting any answers in the r.ship categorys, so I thought id post here instead cause you people seem nice (

 

[LEE]

leave him! u are only 22 yrs old- youve been with him for 7 yrs so u must realise by now that u cant change him. no matter what things will always be the same. you will find someone else and bbefore u know it u will be thinkin what the hell was i doin wasting my time iwth that jerk

 

[lindah]

Leave him! He is an a*s*ole! and you do NOT deserve that! he will realize wht u mean to him when your gone.. it always happens that way.. make him suffer

 

[CrazzeeeX]

You need to leave him sweety! He sounds very controlling and abusive. Seven years should be enough to show you what can deal with and what you can't.

 

[singingsensation1560]

Hi Jeska,

I know this is hard for you and I can say that I have been in the same boat myself. I am sure a lot of us on here have been. Men can be such dick heads sometimes and will never truly understand women's emotions. My husband can sometimes act the same way, he just does not want to hear that I want to talk about us or want him to tell me how he feels. Its like a wall immediately comes up when emotions enter into the conversation. There are lots of men that are like that. It can get very frustrating absolutely!!

As far as your boyfriend is concerned, I would really take a hard look at your relationship with him. I know 7yrs has been a long time and the reason you are soo attached to him is because you have been with him for such a long time and you are comfortable with him in any mood he throws at you. The thought of having to start over is very scary so you want to stay with him because of your fear of starting over or possibly finding someone better. Trust me I know!!!

People argue all the time that is what relationships are is agreeing and disagreeing. That's what builds a relationship but it can also break it. The fact that your boyfriend not only has a bad temper but has a violent side, that is dangerous and that is something that you need to thing long and hard about on wanting to stay with. He obviously can not control his temper and he just showed you this.What makes you think that it is not going to happen again?

We can't tell you what to do, that is up to you, but after 7yrs together and this is what you have to look forward too for every other year to come, do you really see yourself living in this type of relationship, marrying this man someday or even having children with him, fully knowing that he can turn on you or your kids at any given moment. I know I am pushing it here you are only 22 and you have your whole life ahead of you, but really think about it. U need to do what is good for you. It is very hard and yes it is very scary to think about starting from scratch, but if its something that is gonna be good for you, then just jump back on the horse darling and rope you up another wonderful man. Sometimes someone does not know what they lost until its gone, maybe your boyfriend needs to learn this the hard way. Decision is up to you!! Best of luck hun!!

 

[CharleneLowen]

he seems like a complete twat tbh. and the fact that your still making excuses for him obviously means your immature and don't know whats best for you. it doesn't matter how nice anyone is everyone should tell you the same thing your obviously not compatible and should leave it.. and i know you wont listen to anyone because your blinded by the fact you love him... but ask yourself a question would someone do that to you if they loved you back, not even the hurting you bit just the breaking up with you for know reason it sound like something a 16 year old boy does when his girlfriend does his head in not a 22 year old in a proper relationship. stop being dumb and think about yourself you might love him but he obviously ddoesn'tlove you back or he has a funny way of showing it... and im not trying to be mean its just people like this rely frustrate me get out befor it gets to bad.

 

[CharleneLowen]

he seems like a complete twat tbh. and the fact that your still making excuses for him obviously means your immature and don't know whats best for you. it doesn't matter how nice anyone is everyone should tell you the same thing your obviously not compatible and should leave it.. and i know you wont listen to anyone because your blinded by the fact you love him... but ask yourself a question would someone do that to you if they loved you back, not even the hurting you bit just the breaking up with you for know reason it sound like something a 16 year old boy does when his girlfriend does his head in not a 22 year old in a proper relationship. stop being dumb and think about yourself you might love him but he obviously ddoesn'tlove you back or he has a funny way of showing it... and im not trying to be mean its just people like this rely frustrate me get out befor it gets to bad.

 

[singingsensation1560]

Hi Jeska,

I know this is hard for you and I can say that I have been in the same boat myself. I am sure a lot of us on here have been. Men can be such dick heads sometimes and will never truly understand women's emotions. My husband can sometimes act the same way, he just does not want to hear that I want to talk about us or want him to tell me how he feels. Its like a wall immediately comes up when emotions enter into the conversation. There are lots of men that are like that. It can get very frustrating absolutely!!

As far as your boyfriend is concerned, I would really take a hard look at your relationship with him. I know 7yrs has been a long time and the reason you are soo attached to him is because you have been with him for such a long time and you are comfortable with him in any mood he throws at you. The thought of having to start over is very scary so you want to stay with him because of your fear of starting over or possibly finding someone better. Trust me I know!!!

People argue all the time that is what relationships are is agreeing and disagreeing. That's what builds a relationship but it can also break it. The fact that your boyfriend not only has a bad temper but has a violent side, that is dangerous and that is something that you need to thing long and hard about on wanting to stay with. He obviously can not control his temper and he just showed you this.What makes you think that it is not going to happen again?

We can't tell you what to do, that is up to you, but after 7yrs together and this is what you have to look forward too for every other year to come, do you really see yourself living in this type of relationship, marrying this man someday or even having children with him, fully knowing that he can turn on you or your kids at any given moment. I know I am pushing it here you are only 22 and you have your whole life ahead of you, but really think about it. U need to do what is good for you. It is very hard and yes it is very scary to think about starting from scratch, but if its something that is gonna be good for you, then just jump back on the horse darling and rope you up another wonderful man. Sometimes someone does not know what they lost until its gone, maybe your boyfriend needs to learn this the hard way. Decision is up to you!! Best of luck hun!!

 

[Nihilists]

Omg I'm so glad this isn't an "I'm pregnant my boyfriend is abusive, what should I do?" question!
The answer is simple but not as easy as it sounds. Just leave the guy. If nothing ever changes and your not happy then leave and find someone you are happy with. Don't waste any more of your time on someone who is never going to change. Otherwise you will be stuck in a relationship that is the same as it is now in another 7 years

Good luck.

 

[littlemonkeyintheoven]

You should not stay with a man that treats you badly. Stand up and take charge. I strongly believe that people treat you the way you let them treat you. You know you are worth more then what he is offering you. After 7yrs you should know that you cannot change a man he is the one that needs to do the changing for himself. It seems quite obvious that at this rate he is not going to change. I think you should leave him and start a new life. You will be able to find someone that treats you equally and that gives you butterflies every morning.