My dads not interested in his kids what can I do?

[James]

My dad never sees me or any of my siblings, we haven't done anything wrong. What should I do to get him interested ? :/

 

[staceyL]

Please understand this is about him. Not you or your siblings. I know it hurts and it sucks, but if you have tried talking to him and letting him know you would like to see him more and you are getting nowhere, then understand that although this is not what you want, it just is the place your father is in right now. He will come around at some point I'm sure, but by then you may be angry and resentful. Please understand, this has nothing to do with you kids. Your dad loves you I'm sure, but he just isn't in a place where he feels capable of being responsible for kids right now. Just work on you and developing a great relationship with your mom. I'm sorry for what you and your siblings are going thru.

 

[Hubert]

I'm very sorry James, I know how you feel. My father was the same way when I was growing up and he wanted nothing to do with my mother, me, nor my two siblings. It's a very hard thing to go through, but my mom raised us just fine on her own. The only thing you could do is have a heart to heart talk with your dad and tell him how you feel and let him know how this is affecting you and your siblings. If he's smart, he'll start being involved in your lives. But sometimes things just dont work that way, Im sorry. the way I see it is if he doesnt want to be with his own children that is his loss! He's missing out on wonderful times. I know that when my dad was that way I always told myself that I would be a better father when I grew up and I would always be there for my kids- and I did. And I was. Stay strong son it'll get better, trust me. I wish you the best of luck.

 

[frillyfroofroo]

Write him a letter and tell him you miss him.
Invite him to come to your ball game or music recital
Call him every week.
Ask to have a regular appointment time with him.
Nicely ask to see him more.
Tell him you need his advice about something that doesn't matter much to you.
Ask for family counseling.

 

[adeline_cosine]

This is really tough for you kids, and of course it's not your fault. It's a Dad's responsibility to show his children he loves and thinks about them, but sometimes there may be problems you are not aware of.

How far away does your Dad live? You should be able to get an address, an email address, or a phone number. In this situation, take the initiative and call HIM.

Tell him about your day and that you love him and miss him. Don't make him feel guilty about his neglect and the unhappiness it causes you. He may be having problems you don't know about, and feels embarrassed to talk to you until he can say something good about his life. He may not realize what you care most about is him.

If your mother says she doesn't have any contact information on where your dad is, make an effort to find out. Google his name on the internet. Ask other relatives or family friends.

Best of luck!