My ex has a FWB, but still tells me she loves me; wants to be with me in the future.?

[GuyfromNY1]

I am 28 and she is 22 years old. We dated more on than off for almost a year before deciding a long distance relationship, at this time wasn't good. We are in love with each other, we see a future together once I graduate and we can live near each other.

Last month, I was unable to visit her for the second time due to school conflicts. That weekend she hooked up with a coach at the high school she teaches at and they have developed a "friends with benefits" relationship.

She says it is only casual and has no feelings for him and no plans to ever date him, although he has feelings for her. He doesn't have a college degree nor does he have a driver's license.

The first issue is that they sleep in bed together overnight, which is something I have always felt, was more intimate and only to be done in a relationship.

The second issue concerns her visiting me in 10 days from now. We had planned to spend a romantic Valentine's Day weekend together.

I asked her to not have sex with the coach for the next two week and told her that if it continued that our weekend together would be canceled.

I just didn't want to feel like the "weekend fling with the ex" and hoped since we had a romantic weekend planned that she would put her "casual" "Friend With Benefits" relationship on hold until after we saw each other.

She told me she would try to stop; but felt like I was controlling her by asking her to stop for the time being. Literally the next night, they hooked up again.

I am devastated. She says she just loves having sex now and can't get enough.

What should I do? Should I see her at all? Please leave me your thought...and thank you in advance.

 

[Dunson41]

Dude listen to your wang, get some and decide what to do after that.

Valentines day crap gets the chicks in the mood something fierce, don't give up the good times because of your own head games.

Live in the moment like she is and worry about the future later. Stressing only has downsides you know what I mean?

 

[Matt]

You are not dating. She can knock boots which whomever she wants, including you. If you don't want her having sex with someone else, then go back to being boyfriend/girlfriend and deal with the long distance thing.

 

[Sam]

I agree with the answer that your girlfriend does not love you. If I was in your place, I would leave this girlfriend alone. I would not tolerate the fact that she has sex with someone else. Such a form of relationship does not fit my worldview.

 

[Boogey]

She does NOT love you if she "seeing" someone else. She would be devoted to only you right now if she loved you. You my friend, are being played. Quit the game.