GuyfromNY1
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I am 28 and she is 22 years old. We dated more on than off for almost a year before deciding a long distance relationship, at this time wasn't good. We are in love with each other, we see a future together once I graduate and we can live near each other.
Last month, I was unable to visit her for the second time due to school conflicts. That weekend she hooked up with a coach at the high school she teaches at and they have developed a "friends with benefits" relationship.
She says it is only casual and has no feelings for him and no plans to ever date him, although he has feelings for her. He doesn't have a college degree nor does he have a driver's license.
The first issue is that they sleep in bed together overnight, which is something I have always felt, was more intimate and only to be done in a relationship.
The second issue concerns her visiting me in 10 days from now. We had planned to spend a romantic Valentine's Day weekend together.
I asked her to not have sex with the coach for the next two week and told her that if it continued that our weekend together would be canceled.
I just didn't want to feel like the "weekend fling with the ex" and hoped since we had a romantic weekend planned that she would put her "casual" "Friend With Benefits" relationship on hold until after we saw each other.
She told me she would try to stop; but felt like I was controlling her by asking her to stop for the time being. Literally the next night, they hooked up again.
I am devastated. She says she just loves having sex now and can't get enough.
What should I do? Should I see her at all? Please leave me your thought...and thank you in advance.
Last month, I was unable to visit her for the second time due to school conflicts. That weekend she hooked up with a coach at the high school she teaches at and they have developed a "friends with benefits" relationship.
She says it is only casual and has no feelings for him and no plans to ever date him, although he has feelings for her. He doesn't have a college degree nor does he have a driver's license.
The first issue is that they sleep in bed together overnight, which is something I have always felt, was more intimate and only to be done in a relationship.
The second issue concerns her visiting me in 10 days from now. We had planned to spend a romantic Valentine's Day weekend together.
I asked her to not have sex with the coach for the next two week and told her that if it continued that our weekend together would be canceled.
I just didn't want to feel like the "weekend fling with the ex" and hoped since we had a romantic weekend planned that she would put her "casual" "Friend With Benefits" relationship on hold until after we saw each other.
She told me she would try to stop; but felt like I was controlling her by asking her to stop for the time being. Literally the next night, they hooked up again.
I am devastated. She says she just loves having sex now and can't get enough.
What should I do? Should I see her at all? Please leave me your thought...and thank you in advance.