my ex would constantly argue with me?

[BrittD]

he is 21 almost 22. and i am 18.. hes liked me for over a year maybe even almost 2. well this december we started "tlking" but he was too clingy and i was going through alot because i had just broken up with my ex of four years so i told him that it was too much... he talked to one of my "friends" to make me jealous. i didnt care much..lol.. well anyways in march we start tlking again and things were going very well. so we started dating.. he was gone for a month training at bootcamp, he got hurt so he came back early. and for the 6 weeks that he was here we argued 2 of them.. he would get mad over the stupidest things. i was "texting" in church, i was watching a movie and said i would call him later, i had to get up at 5 in the morning and i wouldnt come over after work at 10 one night. so ibroke up with him.. and his mom text me saying he deserves better and that if i did this out of revenge for tlking to my friend then she hopes my sophistication lasts... and i didnt i just was tired of arguing because i dont argue with anyone even my sis didnt know why i put up with it.. he cussed me out one time and i kno that doesnt sound like too big of a deal but no one tlks to me like that... anyways do you guys think this is enough reason to break up? his family makes me think im completly wrong or something

 

[KyleTrapani]

I recently broke up with my girlfriend for that same reason. I was just tired of arguing. It gets old after a while, especially when it's about stupid things like you were talking about. It's normal to fight with each other sometimes, but it is not normal when a seemingly low-drama girl like yourself finds herself in the middle of an unprovoked confrontation.

Right away, trying to play the jealousy card early on with one of your friends, in my opinion, should have sent off a warning signal for immaturity and future possible problems. I think it is bad that he tried starting out a relationship though a negative situation, instead of a more romantic or even more straight forward approach. Not only did he do that, but he had his mom fight his battle for him at the age of 21. There's people three years younger than him fighting the wars overseas, without their mothers.

I think that is a perfectly understandable reason to break up with someone. If you're not happy, it shouldn't matter what the reason is. It also shouldn't matter to anyone else but the two people in the relationship either. You're still so young and have already been in a four year relationship! This is the time that you should be having fun with your friends and not worrying about some guy that you just met that's going into the military. I hope that helped! Good luck with whatever you do next!

 

[snugglypuff]

you don't want to be in a relationship where you are arguing all the time, especially if it's over stupid stuff. that usually just leads to controlling, obsessive relationships and no one wants that. his family is wrong hun not you!! but think of it this way - if you were in his situation and it was your family, you'd want them to stick up for you too right?? it's his family, i wouldn't take it to heart. but you can't stay in a relationship that you're not happy in, no matter what anyone else thinks or says. you did the right thing

 

[anewday]

why is his family even getting involved. You all are young you'll probably have plenty of break ups and make up its life, things happen that way. As for you breaking up with him only you can make the decision on whether it was right or not. But life is already stressful enough, you don't need someone who is supposed to build you up you break you down. Someone who is supposed to comfort you keep you restless. When something isn't working you can't push shove and mold it to make it work.Good luck