My Friend is Always Hurting Me? Makes fun of my sexuality?

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Brianna

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Not too long ago, I told my friend I'm bi. Since then, it seems like he's always hurting my feelings. I really like a girl, and he is constantly saying things about my "lesbian crush" as he calls it. I found out she didn't like me, and everytime I mention her name, he seems to enjoy reminding me that she isn't into me. Besides that, he just always makes fun of me for being bi. I kind of want to tell him to knock it off, but I'm not sure how. Any ideas?

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well, i think this is a "true friend" situation. he's not being a true friend if he keeps reminding you about that. he'll comfort you, and not say a word about it at all. and if he doesn't like you being bi, then once again not a true friend...
 
Tell him to stop being so prejudice and that he's hurting your feelings. Ask him how he would feel if you did that to him. Don't stoop down to his level though and eventually if it gets bad, stop reacting to it.
 
A true friend doesn't act like this. Tell him that. If he doesn't stop, he's not worth it.
 
He might be reacting to you telling him your bi in a negative way (or maybe he likes you and thinks your less available being bi). Either way I suggest sit down and confront him in a assertive way without being to aggressive. Explain your bisexuality or how you feel he's hurting you.
 
He's not a friend, that's all that needs to be said.

He's an asshole and you should avoid hanging out with him if he treats you that way. Screw him!

You're a person and despite your sexuality you have a fanbase of people who love, support, back, and care about you.
 
He doesn't understand the seriousness of your sexuality. Most
people take homosexuality as a joke. Most straight people that is.
They don't really have the comprehension. I'm not gay but I can
understand how you would feel not being taken serious, as if your
desires are "a joke". I think you need to have a heart to heart
talk with him and explain homosexuality in a serious nature. Also
explained to him that when he does or says things like that to you
that it makes you feel really bad. Explain that's who you are and
you are not going to change by making jokes or demeaning gestures
and it will only damage your friendship and your feelings for him.
 
I would tell him how you trusted him by telling him that you were bi and hoped that he would be supportive. Then tell him that when he makes fun of you even if he is only joking that it actually hurts.
 
I had a situation with a friend, not quite like yours but a situation I didn't like having with him. I had just hooked up with my boyfriend and one of my best friends didn't know I was gay until I came out to him. The problem came when he started being possesive and always interuptning what me and my bf were doing. Me and my friend spent almost every moment together but now that I was in a relationship I just didn't have that much time to go around. He didn't get it. So I broke up with my friend and told him that we need to take a break from being friends for a while. I didn't want to do it but I had to I wanted him as a friend but he needed to realize he needed to change. We didn't speak for a few months. We started talking again and now we have a healthier friendship than before. If he is truly your friend then he will stop. He wont stop until you prove your point and make a stand. You have to let go of the things you love. If you let go of something or someone and they want you back in their life they will change for you. If he does not change then he does not want to be your friend.
 
Sounds like you may have a jealous guy friend on your hands! Best approach beyond chewing him out, is just to stop talking about your infatuation with your current crush. You wouldn't talk about it with a new ex, so don't talk about it with him! He's crushing on you, be sensitive!
 
I found out when I came out to people... that some people where truly my friend, and others weren't...

Tell him just plainly to shut up when he does it... that's what I would do...
 
tell him to knock it off like you want to. if he doesnt take that seriously, well...he seriously aint your friend.
 
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