my girlfriends dad is racist and wont introduce me at all to him?

[m'mHereForYouem]

aw it's ok...
i don't like racist people...
i mean you can't judge every PERSON..
we aren't all the same...
i don't really think you have to meet her father...
but if you want to meet him out of respect..then i think you should...
everythings going to be ok..just pray to God .

 

[Trenton]

me and my girlfriend have been dating for 8months and now live together for about two. She has yet to introduce me to her dad. From what she tells me he is completely racist and claims that he will "disown" his only child if she ever dated a black man. So how do i make my girlfriend relise that he will be shocked at first but eventually except me because his daughter loves me?

also anyone got any advice on dealing with a racist dad?
also any advice about making your girlfriend feeling better about her weight? i think she looks fine but she wont take my opinion she swears shes fat

 

[mRockerOm]

most of the time is not racism bro, the man is just a little jelous that his little girl is gonna be looking up to another man now ( you) and thats normal....unless he has show some serious signs of racism towards you

 

[paddington_ck]

This is such a tough situation. Unfortunately, if he's really older and set in his ways, chances are he may never come around. My Dad isn't necessarily racist but he wouldn't want me to date outside my race. I'm pretty positive that he would never accept if I dated a black man. I say that with certainty because he has a hard time even accepting my boyfriend now, who although is white, we've been living together for two years and my Dad doesn't believe in people "shacking up" and the whole sex before marriage thing. It's a hard thing to go through and I'm sure this is what your girlfriend is feeling.

All you can do is decide if you two are truly in this for good. If this is just something you think is just for fun or a temporary thing, maybe you need to rethink things because it will only be hurting her relationship with her father. On the flipside, if you do truly love each other and plan on getting married and having a family someday, then you have every right to live your lives no matter how her dad feels. Hopefully he'd come around some day.

Perhaps you could make an attempt to talk to her dad. Give him a call and invite him out to dinner with the two of you. Maybe then you could introduce yourself formally and express your good intentions about his daughter. Let him know about the good things you have to bring to the table as far as a future with her. Let him know about your education, career, etc. so he can a positive sense of who you are as a person. Maybe just maybe he could see past your color and see who you are inside. All you can do is extend a hand and hope he'll be willing to respond in kind.

As far as helping your girlfriend feel better about her weight, it's best to just always reinforce how sexy and beautiful you think she is. It's really up to her to believe you or not.

 

[nesquick]

Racism comes in all colors. I just want to put that out there because there are plenty of parents who would not want their black son or daughter dating a white person.

It's going to be hard to change his mind. It's unlikely to happen because you are younger than him and he probably sees himself as protecting his daughter from whatever he fears the threat is of her dating a black man.

I think there's one thing you can do, treat her very well. Any excuse you give him to not like you, he will harp on it to no end.
I think she needs to talk to him about it and not date someone she knows he would not approve of because it's disrespectful behind his back, even if it is because he's being a racist. That will give him an excuse to say, already she's being deceitful by hiding it. And he'll blame that on you. (edited)

As for her weight, it's common for young women to feel fat because of what they see on tv and magazines and if they aren't as thin as the actresses or models than they see themselves as being fat. If she thinks she's fat and won't hear of anything else than let her know that even if she were fat, you'd still think she was hot. But I don't think you'll ever convince her that she's not fat if she swears that she is.
Good luck with her Dad. I hope things work out for the best.