My mom's boyfriend is moving in soon.I just kind of want to vent and get some...

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...advice/words of wisdom? My mom's boyfriend is moving in soon.I just kind of want to vent and get some advice/words of wisdom?
My mom's boyfriend is moving in soon.I just kind of want to vent and get some advice/words of wisdom?
I am just like, really? You have been dating him for what, 7 or 8 months? wtf!? That's really not very long at all.

I don't want him around 24/7, I like how its just me, my mom and my sister. I like him, he is nice and funny and all, but I just don't want him living here, you know?
I am just crying right now. I feel hurt, like my mom doesn't even care how I feel. I have nobody to talk to, I obviously can't talk to my mom... I am just like seriously wtf right now... Words of Wisdom?
No, I asked her a few months ago how long she'd been dating and she said 4 months. That was a few months ago, so I am just estimating.
She introduced us to him after thay' only been dating like 2 months. ( Rolls eyes..)
 
You seem to be very mature in that you think dating 7-8 months is not enough to move in together. It's a big change for you and your sister, and it is hard to feel powerless in saying anything.

Even though you don't think you can't talk to your mom, does she know how you feel? Does your sister feel the same way?

If you can't get through to your mom, is there any way you are comfortable talking to your mom's bf? You and your sister could try to sit down with him and let him know that you both like him, but you're afraid that his relationship with your mom is moving a little too fast for you two. You could suggest waiting a little bit or come up with ways to make the adjustment more bearable, for example, you and your sister get your mom for one night a week for girls night, or whatever.

In the meantime, I know you are frustrated and angry. See if you can hang out with your friends for the afternoon.

Keep your chin up. It sounds like you care for your family very much. Things will work out. :-)
 
Your mother obviously wouldn't bring someone around that wouldn't fit in with your family, and you said he's nice and funny. It will be a change you need to adjust to, but your mother needs to have her life, too. I promise as terrible as it seems now, it will get better. It's nice to have your tiny family, but think of how happy your mother will be to have her boyfriend around all the time, how her improved mood will improve the household and how the extra income from another person will improve everyone's quality of life. There are lots of plus points, you just have to give the situation a chance!
 
I know you don't like it... but in fairness to your mother, you need to get over it. Things in life don't stay the same forever, and adults need companionship from more than just their kids.

You may also be a little off on how long they've actually been dating. I strongly doubt she informed you as soon as she started seeing this guy. They may have actually been dating for several months before she introduced him to you.
 
Look on the brighter side of things...this could be good that he is moving in u never know....I hope it works out
 
I don't think it's your choice as to what mom decides to do...she is the adult, not you. She may care about this person alot and they've decided to try living together before a possible marriage may happen...your mom is entitled to share her life with someone aside from her children...when you get older and start dating, mom will be sitting there alone...with no one for HER...is this what you want for her? It sounds as if you like the guy, which is a plus...and having him around 24/7 will be different for a while but you will adjust just as HE will have to adjust to you guys. Your mother cares about how you feel, you shouldn't think that...She is not only your mom, but she is a woman who wants to have a relationship for herself...just as you will someday with someone and your sister will...Don't you think it would be unfair of you to stop her from finding happiness for herself ? She loves you guys but she is also allowed to care and want to be with someone else too beside her children, who will up and leave someday to start their own lives.....Hypothetical: suppose one day when you are much older, mom is living with you...you meet someone and care about him and you decide to live together...mom doesn't want you to do that and doesn't want him living there and wants it to be just you and her...What would YOU say and do? Give that some thought before you start giving mom a hard time.
 
think you reallly need to speak to your mum im sure if she knows how unhappy you are about it they may pospone but se does need to be happy as well you wont always be at home
 
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