My Mother has been gossiping about me with EVERYONE!?

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I officially moved out at 19, (I am 27 now), I made a life in California, had a good job, tons of friends, even bought a house, but everything has been taken away from me and had to move with my parents in NY.
I am unemployed and live in their attic so in return I am giving them of $100 a month of my food stamps, I am in a very poor state..emotionally and financially.
It has been 1 year and a half since I moved in, its kinda hard to start everything all new when I lost EVERYTHING.
Lately my mom has been telling the WHOLE world about my situation, I am getting phone calls from my aunts and uncles and getting yelled at about me not doing anything to help my parents. The way it work with my parents is..they expect me to work (doesnt matter WHERE)and hand over the paycheck to them (it has been that way before I moved out).
People are calling and yelling at me, even some of their friends in this town come over and ask me things that no one outside this house should know about. I normally don't say a word, I simply just nod and run back in my safe place, I have been VERY depressed since I got back here and now I am even more depressed. I simply just don't know what to do.

I am not eating their food, I dont do interfere with their business and I just dont know what they want from me. I am trying to help them as much as I can around the house but even that isnt enough.
 
Starting over is never easy. But, it's just like riding a horse you fall off you got to get back up. You don't have to be happy and you don't have to like it but you do have to remember life goes on and if you don't like your situation you'll take the first job that comes along. After all it will do until something better comes along.Won't it? As for your parents they probably mean well and you moving back home has affected them to. They probably find it easier to talk to everyone but you. Tell them how them telling your business makes you feel but do it respectfully other wise you may find yourself living on the streets. Just remember to listen to what they say to you and if they offer any advice do your best to take it. As long as you get back out there and try things will get better.
 
The same thing happened to me when I was laid off from a job with an entertainment giant. I didn't move in with my parents (I was able to keep my home and pay my bills), but my mother told anyone with two ears about my situation, and it seriously pissed me off. Although it came from her, it still felt like a violation.

Do what I did and be straight with your mother. Tell her that the chatter is humiliating and needs to stop. Then get get whatever job you can (no, it doesn't matter where—I would've gone back to waiting tables like I did in college, if I had to), save up and move out.
 
Aww dont feel bad, my dad was in the same situation as u. (The only difference is that he has a family.) My dad joined the army and we r financially stable now. Im not saying join the army, if thats wat ur thinking.
I dont really know u and dont know what kinds of jobs u r able to apply to so i cant really help u there. All i can say is that life gets hard but keep ur head up high and realize that its a new day tomorrow. Anything can happen! Pretend ur 19 again and start over;)
 
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