My parents are always arguing, i want them to get a divorce?

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so this might sound bad but my parents are always arguing and atm there not talking to each other my mom moved my dads stuff out of her room and my dad doesn't seem to give two shits. Im sick of them always arguing, my moms been through hell in this relationship and im tired of seeing her hurt i don't hate my dad i just hate his family especially his sister who are the problem of there arguments. My dads never hit my mom but his always hurting her emotionally, ive tried talking to mom to just sit down with my dad and talk but she doesn't want to and im not close to my dad to even speak to him about it. I just want this to end i want them to get divorced, but knowing my mom she probably wont i come from a indian family so it's not like they can get a divorce and thats the end of it i need some advice i havent spken to anyone else about this im feeling a lil depressed
 
They aren't taking into account the effect their behavior is having on you. If there is some trusted adult you can speak with, then do so...you need someone you can talk to and vent to and share your feelings with...
 
They are adults and there is nothing you can do to stop this except maybe let them know how you feel. Can you maybe talk with the Aunt and find out what her problem with your mother is?
 
I think you are stronger than your mother and surely you can see things clearer than her. It is up to you to have a calm, mature conversation with your father to understand that his ways affect both your mum and yourself.

Since you are so intelligent and depending to what level you want to take this (and depending where you live) you can further involve Social Services, The court etc.

Since your parents seem to be having these problems, it is much easier for an outsider to see that in the long run they will not be happier, or together so they have to come to an understanding. Also you should speak to your father's sister you have mentioned earlier on and ask her (like a politician) how she could help your family for you to have a better, calmer life. Between you and me, I think she is a bully, people like her need treating with carefully. Good luck.
 
I don't know your age, but you may need to address your father's sisters if they are the problem. And I know your not close to your dad, but you can still try and talk to him. After all, he is your dad. Try your best to find an outlet. That's what I had to do to drown out the noise from my dad hitting my mom and them arguing all the time. If you feel depressed, please get help now because it can hurt you in the long run if you don't. I got depressed as a child from the same thing and I'm still dealing with it even now through my adult life. I'm even in my own abusive relationship now trying to work something out that probably will never be. If you don't talk to everyone now, you'll probably find yourself in the same situation and you'll probably be depressed.
 
I know what you're feeling. Been there. My Mom married my stepdad who was more like a dad than anyone, but it wasn't a good marriage. They were both miserable and constantly arguing over really stupid things at the end. It wasn't until 10 years of misery that my mom woke up and realized how depressed she actually was b/c of it all. But, I want to caution you. Even though you think they should divorce doesn't mean they should. Marriage is supposed to be sacred and not so easily tossed aside. Just because they're fighting doesn't mean there's not still love there somewhere. I don't care what nationality someone is divorce is not acceptable like that in my book. It is a very very last resort when all other possibilities have been exhausted. Your mom will have to come to terms with what kind of life she wants to have, just like mine needed to. But, if you're still living at home or have siblings too they could be staying together for that as well. It's turned out when the kids leave the nest the parents divorce quicker. Just continue to be your mom's support right now. But don't tell her what to do, she has her reasons even if you don't see them.
 
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