My son is throwing tantrums but it unable to speak what route do I take?

[fargoblizzards]

discipline or console him? Please hel? My son was talking and using 3-4 word sentences until something happened which he witnessed with his father and I. He has now regressed and is in speech therapy and play therapy. His therapist has only advised me to be patient while she works with him but things are getting worse. He screams and crys 95% of the time he is awake I have taken him to his pediatrician many times to be sure he isn't sick and he is 100% healthy. An example of his behavior is if he has a pen I will ask him to give it to me 3 times. He only gets three chances and I give him a minute to decide after that I take the pen. He will scream for 10-15 minutes non stop. After he is done screaming and following me around he will pick up something else he knows he shouldn't have. I have tried time out but he will not sit in time out. Trust me I tried reinforcing it for about a month picking him up and putting him back in time out won't work. I am so lost and feel like im losing it. He won't play by himself and just won't stop crying. Before all of this happened he was such a good kid now I feel like this will never end. Please help. I dont know what to do anymore.
Also could it be he is negative attention seeking? He will sometimes look at me before he does something and wait for me to make eye contact and then proceeds to for example climb onto the table.
His dad was sent to prison a little over a year ago for attempted murder for basically nearly beating me to death and he was in the same room

 

[JCH]

you're correct this sounds like boundary testing and attention seeking. You may have to actually hold him in time out, but without emotion and not actually interacting with him while you do - no hugging or consoling. Time out is a punishment, not attention time. Above all be CONSISTENT. Never ever change because he's had a bad day (or you have!) because it will just confuse the hell out of him. Good luck