KirstyBirch
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- Feb 8, 2011
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Hi
If you have read my other question, it seems that being raged at, having your clothes thrown down the stairs and watching the man you love hit himself in the head DOES mean you are being abused! Oh dear, how did i get here!? I truely feel at a loss as what to do.
I have moved out of his house and back to my place but we are at the "i will be really nice" stage at the moment. I told him i would like to see change in our relationship before i even consider moving back in with him, plus my parents do not know i have been seeing him. I told him i wanted to see how things worked before i got my family involved again. This is causing us to bicker everytime we speak. He jut keeps saying "you should be here, you are putting all our future plans on hold by not moving back in". By that he means i am not paying his mortgage lol!? He is also saying he didnt realise my parents had such control over me as i clearly am worried about telling them i have met him. I hate that he said that as i love my parents to death and the reason i have not told them is that they will worry about me.
Why is that if this was my friend, i would be shouting at her telling her to get out of this damn relationship...so why wont my heart see it!??? My head does..my head knows whats going on. Its when he tells me how special i am and that he let me in as he loved me and i should see this as he has never lived with anyone else (he's 33). Its a killer. I didnt speak to him for 8 weeks and then met him in a monent of weakness. I swing from wanting him so bad..to thinking i need to get away!!!
What you all think hey!? What should i do next..just stay at my house and see what happens??
He also keeps saying that i have blown things up and that it wasnt as bad as i am saying and that we were happy most times. We were happy but i forget the reason i left him. He seems like such a sweet person at heart and can be the a sweet loving man. It makes me feel like i'm the mad one. He says im scared of commitment, i am, but is it my head telling me to get out. This is the worst situation of my life. I am strong independant women in other respects. When i left him, he had been looking at dating websites and had given his number out to a girl he had met. He says ive got it wrong and the women would not leave him until he had given her his number. He says he joined the dating site to have a look for people he knew to take the mick out of!
If you have read my other question, it seems that being raged at, having your clothes thrown down the stairs and watching the man you love hit himself in the head DOES mean you are being abused! Oh dear, how did i get here!? I truely feel at a loss as what to do.
I have moved out of his house and back to my place but we are at the "i will be really nice" stage at the moment. I told him i would like to see change in our relationship before i even consider moving back in with him, plus my parents do not know i have been seeing him. I told him i wanted to see how things worked before i got my family involved again. This is causing us to bicker everytime we speak. He jut keeps saying "you should be here, you are putting all our future plans on hold by not moving back in". By that he means i am not paying his mortgage lol!? He is also saying he didnt realise my parents had such control over me as i clearly am worried about telling them i have met him. I hate that he said that as i love my parents to death and the reason i have not told them is that they will worry about me.
Why is that if this was my friend, i would be shouting at her telling her to get out of this damn relationship...so why wont my heart see it!??? My head does..my head knows whats going on. Its when he tells me how special i am and that he let me in as he loved me and i should see this as he has never lived with anyone else (he's 33). Its a killer. I didnt speak to him for 8 weeks and then met him in a monent of weakness. I swing from wanting him so bad..to thinking i need to get away!!!
What you all think hey!? What should i do next..just stay at my house and see what happens??
He also keeps saying that i have blown things up and that it wasnt as bad as i am saying and that we were happy most times. We were happy but i forget the reason i left him. He seems like such a sweet person at heart and can be the a sweet loving man. It makes me feel like i'm the mad one. He says im scared of commitment, i am, but is it my head telling me to get out. This is the worst situation of my life. I am strong independant women in other respects. When i left him, he had been looking at dating websites and had given his number out to a girl he had met. He says ive got it wrong and the women would not leave him until he had given her his number. He says he joined the dating site to have a look for people he knew to take the mick out of!