I would honestly tell her that you don't want to deal with her anymore because she was abusive towards you and your siblings. Let her know that you are very upset about your father's loss (I am so very sorry about that) and that you want to move on to do amazing things in your life.
Ignore her calls, text messages, emails, etc. Whoever picks up the phone at your house should let her know that you are unavailable and doing homework.
The reason why she keeps contacting you is because (forgive me) you keep giving her that attention. Ignoring her will eventually make her realize that she has no control over you anymore and that you have moved on in life.
My father passed away last September and so I had to leave to live with my other family members because my late father's wife was abusive. She got better as I got older, but when I was younger, she used to hit me, push me, lock me in my bedroom, etc. She stopped that when my Dad got involved, but she didn't stop yelling and name calling. She swore at me and my other siblings and threw things. She has an anger problem and she must always have control.
So...I left to go away to college. I didn't want to go near her, that and I needed privacy to grieve, which is what my family gave me. I finally put myself together again and now I'm on Dean's Honour at my school and I work really hard.
So my point is that now she's calling me, texting me, buying me expensive things I don't really need, and she gets furious when I don't call her. Well, I am balancing eleven courses at my school. I'm always busy from the morning up to about five each night.
I've explained to her that I'm busy and I have moved on in life, but she just refuses to let me do that. Do I just need to tell her to get out of my life permanently and just keep going?
nobody can make you do anything you don't want to. if you are accepting her gifts, you are sending the wrong message. don't you think she's reaching out because she's grieving too? make a decision about who you want in your life and then stick to it.
nobody can make you do anything you don't want to. if you are accepting her gifts, you are sending the wrong message. don't you think she's reaching out because she's grieving too? make a decision about who you want in your life and then stick to it.