I lost my virginity yesterday night with a good friend of mine. It hurt, I felt a pinch, but there was no blood (I was told that would happen when your hymen was torn). Mind you, it was with another female, using only fingers and a sex toy. We did use additional lubricant and we weren't particularly rough with each other. Is this normal for your first time with penetration? (mind you, I'd only ever worn a tampon when I was 15- five years ago)