Please help.. im sort of venting.. boyfriends?

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Dotheworldafavore

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Still kind of in love with my ex.. we broke up last week. but trying moving on, i have a new bf. but i kinda only dated him to make the old bf jealous. I think my ex is not completely over me. we broke up because we got in fights a lot and hurt each other, it was like a mutual decision. ive actually been trying to break up for a long time.. but he wouldnt agree. finally he did agree, and 10 minutes later hes got this new girlfriend. and let me tell you, hes not that much of the "Ladys man".. so obviously he got asked out or something and decided its ok to break it with me.
Well anyways, were through, and what i really want is a best friend. you know, someone to talk to and to laugh with, cry with, and theyll always have my back. that used to be him.. but since we broke up its not that way anymore </3 now i have nobody. you see, i ditched all my friends for him. stupid, i know. but i did. ive tried time and time again to be friends.. but i guess he already has friends like that were i dont. he doesnt need me. but i need him...
i dont want other friends, i just want him. hes like the bestest friend i could ask for. hes the only person thats ever seen me cry... and i really love him. just not more then a friend.
what to do?
umm. to u, first chic that answered, that didnt make sense. bottle it up or let it out?
i am some confused teen who doesnt know what love is.

I just want to know how to make us friends again, like before our relationship. thats all i could ever want.
I JUST want to be friends now.
 
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sally

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I know it seems like you need him now, but I think it is best to break it off with him in general. It seems like he has hurt you quite a bit, and getting into fights is always kind of part of a relationship...But there comes a point were it is too much. I would also suggest breaking up with your current boyfriend if you are just using him to get back at your other boyfriend. If you really feel like you want to make things better with your old boyfriend you could try talking to him about it...
I know I don't know you or anything, but I really believe you could be a strong person without him. I think you have just been with him so long that it feels like you are loosing your best friend, which, I mean you kind of are in a way. It will be hard, and I'm not saying that your feelings for him will go away immediately...I had a friend go through something similar, and it was super hard for her to cut contact with her ex for a long time, but now she has other friends and me, and she met a super nice new guy that has treated her much better. So, trust me, there are better guys out there for you! The only thing is, don't try to rebound too quick or anything, just recover from this, make some new friends and try to enjoy being single. Hopefully I helped.
Good luck!
 
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RedGrace

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anyone who gets a new bf one week after... okay well you are probably a stupid teenager and have no idea what love is. you might be surprised, but venting is actually bad it just makes things worse, so no dont bottle it all up inside... you need to get out
 
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clairbearbear

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First off, how much does he like this girl?
Because you broke up about a week ago you have the time advantage, he cant be completely over you.
I was recently in almost the exact same situation and I let him know that even though we've both moved on, I missed him. You don't want to sound desperate but let him know how you feel. Plan it out first, so you don't sound lame. Make it seem like you don't need him but you'd like to have him. If that doesn't work; start trying to reconnect with your girl friends and maybe start a sport or something to keep your mind off of him. Every girl needs girlfriends, whether they have a guy or not. I feel your pain and wish you luck. Remember, make him miss you and want you so you don't have to do all the work, but don't break this new boy's heart by using him! The best of luck to you. :)
 
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AliJoy

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guys suck! never rely on a guy to be ur only comfort you need girlfriends in your life guys will come and go but friends will always stay....chicks before dicks!.....try talking to your old friends and tell them u really need them in your life and u made a huge mistake and didnt realize what the fuck you were doing before when u ditched them..if that doesnt work make new friends
 
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