Please help me. I'm in knots. My mum suffers from mental heatlh issues. She can be very vicious to my dad and to myself. We do all we can for her. She has her own house and her own car and he makes sure all her financial needs and bills are paid. I visit every 3 weeks for the weekend and spend all xmas hols, all easter hols, with her and phone her 3 times per day to say hello. Anything she wants arranged i make all the calls on it. I'm an only child, I'm 30. I live 80km away. because i cannot live in the same town as her, she would plague me and has done thats why i had to move away. She doesnt want me to have a partner or to get married...she 100% believes my duty is to her and to my dad and not to have my own life. Everything was a struggle, getting away from her, she throws fierce tantrums, crying and upset when i have to leave after holdays or weekends...it can be torture. Her doctors know all this but they do nothing, they say shes fully functioning and that its just what she believes. My dad asks me to do everything to pacify her..and never gives me credit for anythign I do. His motto is give into her not matter what she wants jsut for peace. Thats the situation i'll have this weekend now. Its valentines on saturday so i want to do something with my partner. I didnt realise it was so i agreed to have her come stay with us for the weekend (although she'll make snide remarks and try to cause troube). Now i want to put it off for one weekend and i'm too scared to do it...i've to come up with an excuse as I'm afraid she'll go into a tantrum and then dad will be mad with me for causing troube that he has to listen to...Please help..and dont judge me...I'm in alot of turmoil, i may sound like a coward, but i try not to be...Shes a very difficult person, everythings a problem wtih her and fiercely maipulative and i'm just very soft and dont like to be attacked....