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people interested in you? My b.f. of three years and I broke up over a year ago. For this past year, I have had to be entirely independent and go out and meet new people. And I've changed a lot about myself.. I go tanning, dyed my hair, go to the gym all the time, eat soo healthy and I lost 25 pounds. So people think I look way better than I did.
..But it's still not enough.


I've met guys at new jobs or hangout with guys I've kinda known but not really... and although I have absolutely NO self esteem, it gives me some comfort in the fact that when we first hangout they always say how gorgeous and amazing I am (don't worry; I realize that I am not).

It makes me so depressed though because I give each one of these guys my all; I am so nice and funny like I always am, I put up with their s**t.. like when they say they're going to hangout with another girl or like their ex girlfriend. I don't call or text them usually without them doing it to me first. I STAY EXACTLY THE SAME. But it always, alwyas happens, that eventually they want nothing to do with me and usually find someone better to hangout with.


I don't know what to do.I can't hear another "they're just being boys.." I can't take it. Obviously something is wrong. Please help.
 
I don't think that there is anything wrong with you. The only possible thing that I would think is that maybe these guys see that you have very low self esteem. But the only way they might notice that would be if they complimented you and you said something like, "No, I'm ugly" or something like that. If you meet a guy and you are interested in them as more than just a friend, let them know. Flirt with them and make sure that they know that you don't just want to be friends.
 
Well, same with me. I met this girl and we broke up a while ago, and i couldn't stop thinking about her. Maybe you should just be honest with ur self, and go ask him out again. Tell him how much u like him, and that u felt really bad about ur break up and wanna get back together.
 
Thts ur problem sweety. YOU ABS0LUTELY NEED CONFIDENCE && SELF ESTEEM. Its very attractive. Dnt be needy- stay very independent and passionate about your interests, job, and working out. Being an independent woman is a very attractive quality && continue to be urself. Although it sounds corny, watch the Ugly Truth and it shows a lot of the 'truth' in a comical way. Hope this helps.
 
There is nothing wrong with you, sweetie. They feel they can do this with you because you will put up with it. Keep being yourself. If you like a guy for more than a friend, make sure it goes that route. The minute is reverts to friendship....it's pretty much over. As for guy friends, the fact is the friendship will end as soon as they get a girlfriend. They don't need a girl that's a friend when they have a girlfriend. It's just not cool for either of you or the new girlfriend. Good luck!
 
have sex with them. make sure your boobs are big. then they would never leave your side unless they were gay. gay people are f*cking retards tho....
 
stop making yourself fake. be clean and pretty and yourself. Mr right will come along and maybe you are looking to hard and make these guys out to be something they aren't because you want that commited long term relationship. Just relaxe let him find you just have fun
 
ok you changed your looks thinking it would change the outcome of your relationships but GIRL, its not the outside that you need ot change its the inside. you gotta stop being so CHILL with guys and non chalant. you gotta start caring if they hang out with girls cuz thats NOT COOL that they do. you gotta sound like a concerned girlfriend or else theyre gonna think you dont care about them. they leave you and find other girls cuz they WANT to be desired and worried about by a girl and your not doin that. get that self esteem searchin INWARD not change your looks cuz in the end looks isnt whut gets you by.
 
Why do you say "Don't worry, I realize I am not [gorgeous and amazing]"? That's a horrible thing to say about yourself! There is a way to be proud of who you are without being cocky. You should increase your self confidence and feelings of self worth, and then I think everything else will fall into place. Good luck! :)
 
Honestly, it seems like youre trying too hard. If you have a low self esteem then you obviously dont like yourself very much, and if you dont like yourself then how can you expect other people to like you. (I'm not trying to be mean at all, just honest.) I think that as soon as you embrace the way you look and love it then you'll find that people will see that "true confidence" and love you too. Also, dont take your life for granted. Find joy in the simple things. :)
 
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