Rebuilding a relationship with dad?

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sudenlysam

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I've screwed this up so many times, I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm trying I really am, but sometimes I'll slip and it will explode into a huge fight about how I treat him like "crap". I have no idea how to stop this subconscious behavior toward him, and I don't know how to change my attitude in general.
Any suggestion on simple ways to make him see that I am trying to treat him the way I should, even when I slip up?
 
Just tell him that you love him and that its hard for you but you are trying. Do something sweet for him, like bake a cake for him for no reason and say i love you randomly, not only when he buys you things. good luck.
 
How old are you? Are you still living with your parents?

If not, I personally think you should go a few weeks without talking to each other. Write him a LONG letter & tell him everything about why you acct the way you act toward him. You'll probably discover a lot of hidden anger toward him. I'm sure you don't want to live your whole life like this. You also don't want your dad to die & then feel guilty for the rest of your life...

When I was 8, my parents moved us 5 hours away from my grandparents (baltimore) so my dad could go to college. My grandpa didn't understand why the factory he'd worked for 30 years suddenly was not "good enough" for his son. They didn't talk for 7 years! We moved to PA a few years later & were only about an hour from my g-parents. My dad wrote my grandpa a LONG letter just explaining why he left & basically saying, "I didn't do anything to you! I went to school so my family could have a better life" and on and on. They forgave each other & get along great now.
 
You need to give us more details.

I would also suggest family counseling if Dad will agree.
 
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