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Ashley

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I'm worried that I might be heading into sex in a relationship. Me and my boyfriend have been together for two months, and he recently invited me over to his house, saying that his parents won't be at home. I didn't think of it THAT way until a couple of my friends said that he wants sex. They also told me that most couples have sex after about 3-5 months in a relationship. Is this true??? cuz I don't want any kind of sex in this relationship. :\ Help please?
 
does this really come to a suprise to you? you do have a bf sex is apart of that. couples have sex at different times 3-5 months? is that scientifically proven? you better explain to him that you dont want any sex. and if he dosent want to be with you, you know his true colors.
 
3-5 months to have sex what kind of a relationship is this...
go to his house & let him hump on you...till then let the mind games begins
 
If u dont want to do not have sex its completely admirable and ok for u not to tell him your waiting if he dont have respect for u he will leave better off now than later on when it feels right you will know dont feel like its some kinda resume in that if u dont oblidge him he will leave u if thats the case drop him at the closest whore den and take ur awesome values to be with a good man plus u sound young and smart good for you lady!
 
in any relationship everyone needs to be open to conversate so there will be no uncertainty on his part. let him no ur grounds now before it goes on any longer and then someone may get hurt. and it may be true for some but not for all. it can vary and u don't have to do it until u are ready. tell him and be clear about it...and get his point of view on it too. ask him what are yall going to do over there and if he says some different then if u aren't comfy talking about this yet, suggest a mutual location instead like the mall or where ever. then that will buy u time to think on how u want to talk about this. there is nothing wrong with waiting, but like i said, put ur cards on the table and be honest.
 
He can't force you to have sex if you don't want to. Make yourself respected.

If he is so desperate for sex and doesn't love you enough to respect your wishes, he should dump you so he can get it elsewhere.

If he forces you to have sex anyway despite your wishes, that's a violation, and you should call the police.
 
First you have to ask yourself do you like the boy? And I hope he's not 40 and living in his parents basement, I'm assuming your both teenagers in high school. If you like him and want to keep seeing him then I think you need to make it clear that the idea of sex right now repulses you and that you think any girl who is having sex this early is a slut. One of two things will happen, either he will respect your wishes and maybe when you are ready you can give him that gift. Alternatively you will see his real character and he will either leave you or keep trying to get it, at that time you turn tail and run. If you decide to go over there you bring mace with you and if he tries anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or you tell him to stop and he doesn't, make sure he never forgets what the term "no means no" stands for.

Oh and if you aren't comfortable having this conversation with him, you really don't need to be with him, because people who you really match up well with you would be able to have this talk with out any hesitation.

There are three things when you get older you will regret more than anything, having sex to early, starting to curse, and beginning to drink alcohol. Save the sex for someone you really care about.
 
Then why are you with him? You should probably tell him that you don't want sex...
 
Come up with an excuse for why you can't go.

OR, tell him beforehand that there will be no sex.

If you do go, even if you don't want sex, bring condoms, just to be careful.
 
Talk to him about what you think about having sex in your relationship, really I think it is no wrong and right answer, it depends on individual, if you don't want it so early, then tell him, if he understands, means he really loves you.

Hey, can you look at mines? Thanks.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ApSdDP0WfZzidVyNa1qr_8zsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20111110132722AAaLwT0
 
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