You have to first realize that the child is a link between the two of you. That means there is no such this as YOUR right. There are only co-rights because the child is made up of you and the father. He must realize the same thing. When you both realize this then when it comes to making decisions concerning the child you both will come together and decide. All three of you are going to be attached to each other until one of you DIES. So the best thing to do is make it an easy life...especially for the kid...