should i move out of my moms house?

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She has done so much to me and I can't handle it anymore. she constantly lies and tries to turn me against my dad and uses me and my sister to get back at my dad.She cheated on my dad with 2 guys, and now lives with one. I hated him and she moved him in while I was on vacation with my dad and sister and he's still living there...8 years later (i'm 15). she says she talked to us about it but she did not. She starts to believe her own lies and it's....not good. She is in the middle of a trial and asking for child support money for my sister even when she was living with my dad..and she actually belives it! she always says me dad used to beat my sister her and I but I would remember that! she says "it's in the past get over it" but its not! He's still living with us and i still have to deal with it. i do half time but i can't deal with her lies and pettiness..she uses me, is selfish and urghh!Should I move in with my dad? even after this, i still love her and dont believe in runningfrom your problems but i don't know if i can handle the lies and deception.I don't think it's a healthy environment for me to be growing up in. I don't think she's right for raising me...i don't want to turn out like her.my dad is not all cheer either though.He is honest, but he has a BAD temper. nothing bad, just rages a lot. He also tries to bribe me to live with him sometimes and that's not great either...like with pets and all that. I am so confused. should i just stick with half time for 3 more years???I'm just terrified i'm going to turn out like my mother. I don't want to lie to get what i want. do you think i'll turn out like her?I feel really trapped :(they BOTH treat me like an object and ask me to stay longer....IM NOT A FREAKING PING PONG BAL!They don't get that i have feelings too and i'm not just a thing they can use to fight with eachother and toss around as they please.
 
if you dont agree with what she is doing or how she is treating you and you feel like you will have a better quality of life somewhere else then do whats best for you.
 
get your own place you are probably the most normal in your family. save yourself and maybe later your siblings
 
you know what I was in the same situation and you know what I moved out I can't stand the pressure anyways!do the best for yourself! good luck!
 
i think the best thing for you would be to move to your dads and try and get your sister to move there too before you both end up getting hurt because thats how i got badly hurt
 
well it sounds like you would have trouble talking to her, so maybe have a word with your dad? he might be able to talk to her or know of outside parties who can help. Also how often do you see him? maybe if you spent more time with him than you do know it might help you to cope with your mum's situation if you don't want to move out.if you really are unhappy though maybe you should move out, not necessarily forever just maybe until you feel a bit better? or completely move out of course if you want to.
 
I think if she is a good mom despite her sad love life, stay. If not, and you have a choice, make a choice and see your commitment through, for your own sanity. You are 15 and need stability.
 
Oh my dear Mystica...i am so heart sick for you. I know exactly what you're going through! It happened to me as a child many...many...many years ago. You will always love your mom no matter how selfish and stupid she may act. However I think that if your father doesn't also speak badly of your mother in return, as my dad did, I think that living with him is a good idea. Your dear mother may be having some sort of mental problems or drinking or drug problems that would explain her erratic behavior. You need to be in a stable home so that you can grow to be the kind wonderful woman that I can see you're already becoming. The decision of course is yours but you need to put yourself into a safe environment. Peace&Love be with you...~M~
 
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