...have not seen/ spoken to in 5yrs? There is such a long history here but the short of it is he has never been much of a father, has never met my 3 1/2 yr old daughter. My sister used to agree but now has decided she wants him in her life & he's gotten a bad rap all these years. My brother has not seen/spoken to our father in just as many years as me. My father has not tried to contact us. My sister did not tell me he was coming - I found out through my sister in law. She's been hiding this new relationship with him from me for years. I feel betrayed & blindsided. Not to mention that I think she is only getting married because she is incapable of being alone. That being said, her & I have always been pretty close but lately I am kind of realizing she is not a kind person. I'd just as soon skip the wedding altogether but wonder if I'm just overreacting? What would YOU do?