So I am a larger lady and I am self-conscious about it. I wish I was more confident, but I am not. I am really addicted to internet dating sites because I have a hard time meeting people in person. I would also like to stop this, but it is hard when I am so lonely. I have been out with 17 different guys since September, most of them being only once, and a lot of times I ended up being hurt. (No I don't sleep with them or anything like that.) Because of these "50 first dates" I think my weight scares guys away even though I tell them I am larger and they also see pictures.
So I started texting this guy that found me on a dating site. In my profile from the site he found me on it says, "I have meat on my bones, so if you're looking for a small girl that is not me." We have been texting back and forth and tonight he asked me if I wanted to get coffee with him on Thursday. I said yes, but I also said, "I know it says on my profile, but I just want you to be aware that I'm not a small girl, I feel sometimes that scares guys away." His only response was "OK" so I asked him if it was a problem. This was his reply, "Personality goes a long way, but I am a very active person and ultimatley would like to find someone with similar interests. It's just coffee" I have no idea how to take this. It makes me feel worse about myself and I thing I would feel even more umcomfortable meeting him then I was already going to. Should I still meet him? I don't think he was trying to be rude, but I guess it's just hard for me to hear things like that. I like to tell guys about my weight before they meet me because I don't want them to be suprised. And advice on how to be more confident?
No mean replies please.
So I started texting this guy that found me on a dating site. In my profile from the site he found me on it says, "I have meat on my bones, so if you're looking for a small girl that is not me." We have been texting back and forth and tonight he asked me if I wanted to get coffee with him on Thursday. I said yes, but I also said, "I know it says on my profile, but I just want you to be aware that I'm not a small girl, I feel sometimes that scares guys away." His only response was "OK" so I asked him if it was a problem. This was his reply, "Personality goes a long way, but I am a very active person and ultimatley would like to find someone with similar interests. It's just coffee" I have no idea how to take this. It makes me feel worse about myself and I thing I would feel even more umcomfortable meeting him then I was already going to. Should I still meet him? I don't think he was trying to be rude, but I guess it's just hard for me to hear things like that. I like to tell guys about my weight before they meet me because I don't want them to be suprised. And advice on how to be more confident?
No mean replies please.