so my future f-i-l has just basically told me that...?

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Cinders

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My future father in law has just informed me that 'everything they teach nowadays is pointless and stupid' he even went as far as telling me that getting my degree was 'a pushover' and 'complete waste of everyone's time and money.' Now, fair enough, I can respect his opinions, but when he slates the school system, I basically see it as a slight to me, as I am a teacher myself. I worked really hard for three years to get my degree, and now am working hard as a lecturer to get myself ahead in the field. His comments and lack of respect have really hurt me, and then when he asked me if I could change a fuse (to which I replied that I couldn't) he slated my family and told me fiance 'I shall be very worried when you marry her, you'll be knee-deep in sh*t thanks to her'. I don't know what to do about this, or how to explain to my fiance that his father's lack of respect and comments are really knocking my self-worth and hurting me quite deeply. (I will also add that this man told me that Children in Need was a waste of time, even though they paid for me to have life-saving surgery, he bans all 'fun' tv and basically does not seem to understand how 'NORMAL' people live. He thinks that living in a dirty, debt-ridden house is perfectly fine and normal, and thinks this is how the rest of society lives, unless they are 'poncy bas*erds'!! Please help, what do I do?
 
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silver44fox

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tell your father in law that you agree that teaching methods have changed and it is made easier for students to learn things and that past methods were found to be fruitless and futile.ask if he thinks Latin should still be taught in school..ask him how often does he uses logarithms and anti logarithms.,vulgar fractions inversions pound shillings and pence.pounds ounces etc and also point out that fuses that you replace are no longer used and that the fuse box is a junction of trip switches.tell him he needs to learn adapt and evolve from the dianosaur he seems to be and help you to achieve your ambitions..
 
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gladgran

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You cannot respect opinions of that sort you can only let them brush over you. Teachers (I taught 14-16 year old students for more than 20 years) have always had to put up that kind of remark, even to the point of being told how they should teach! I can't count the number of the times I have been told, "Teachers only have to work 9 till 4 and look at all the holidays you get!" I long ago gave up on trying to tell them that we do countless "out of hours" such as lesson preparation, marking, writing reports, parents' evenings, outings, sports activities. But his kind are ignorant, dogmatic, blind, prejudiced and, perhaps most of all, jealous of our success and envious of our salaries. What do you do? I can only suggest that you stay away from him. Explain to your bf that you are not willing to listen to his father's ranting. He probably finds him equally embarrassing and overbearing but feels obliged to put up with it because he has known it all his life. As I said at the beginning, let it brush over you, do not rise to the bait and spend as little time as possible in your fil's company. Good luck. God bless. Gladgran.
 
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