Stepparents are you picking up all the expenses?

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I am Mum to 2 and Stepparent to my partners child. He will not claim any money from his ex. I know she does not have much but she makes a fuss and gets away with it. Some contribution towards food or anything would be good. Her son tells me they eat well including food we can't afford. How can I get something back? I have given up work to do school run as he is not full time school and my man has to work! She still has her own house and they work parttime due to toddler care. We are living in the UK but insight from around the world appreciated!
 
I'm confused, does her child live with you full time? If not then how do you mean you claim money from her?
If the child does live with you full time then yes she should may maintenance, exactly the same as an absent father, you could get advice from a solicitor about what you are entitled to claim if you are unsure.
If the child does not live with you full time you cannot expect to get money from the mother.
 
My husband's ex was financially responsible for their son and my husband for their daughter. Both are now over 18 and since we have been together 2 1/2 years now, we pay for school clothing, supplies, and now we are paying for his high school graduation party and debts associated with it, ie Senior all night party, year book, cap and gown, etc. She pays for nothing. She couldn't handle the task of making sure he even graduated high school so my sister in law allows him to stay with her. The school in her area has the most relaxed graduation standard in the State and that is the only way he could graduate.

The ex has the money to commute to work over 40 miles each way so she can live with her boyfriend (he doesn't like either one of the kids), they drink and smoke pot. She has gotten several tattoos and piercings. She's a train wreck. I don't know how she can live with herself and turn her back on her kids like that and not own up to her responsibility. I guess it doesn't matter where you live in the world, their are terrible and irresponsible people everywhere. Best wishes to you and your family. I know your partners child will grow up respecting you and appreciate everything you do for them.
 
Hiya

Surely if the step child is in yours and your partners full time care then you are FULLY entitled to the child benefit for that child...there is no reason why the mother should be getting money for the child considering he is not in her care...get onto child benefit and they will soon stop it and award it to your hubby/boyfriend.
thats presuming that he is living with you both on a permanent basis ?
 
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