Straight guy friend flirts with me...is he bi? interested? just joking around?

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Ok So I’ve known this guy for 7 years now and we’ve been good friends. However, this past year I’ve noticed he’s been flirting with me constantly. He knows I’m out which has me questioning what his intentions are. He’s known to be a ladies’ man and he’s always flirting with some new girl. Yet, he always manages to make a pass at me. I did’t really pay him much attention in the beginning, but now regrettably, he’s all I’ve been thinking about and I think I’m really into him now. Still, I don’t know if I should flirt back or make a move. He’s always trying to get my attention, always touching me, telling me suggestive things. It’s fishy..Once he put his head on my lap. Once we were sitting together in a computer lab and he reached for my hand so we held hands the whole time and I passed my fingers through his hair. Another time at a party he had some drinks in him but I was sitting somewhere alone when he came up to me and kissed me on my cheek. I know it could have gone further but at that moment someone came in and he moved away. Darn!….Anyway I took pictures of him once and complimented him on them. I told him I liked them and that one of them was my desktop wallpaper and that I would love to take more pics of him, and he reminded me to take some!-Said that I needed more for my collection. Despite all these amazing moments, he sometimes completely ignores me, doesn't’t talk to me when I hang out with other people, sometimes seems jealous. Also, we were once at his house alone just the two of us and he didn’t try to make a move!- Which to me contradicts everything he normally does and of course gets on my nerves. its never consistent! Now he lives like 30mins away and I didn’t see much of him this past summer. Yet we talk online and he says I should come visit him sometime. He’s still single! And I hate that I still don’t know for sure if he’s interested in me or simply a flirt who wants attention. He goes out of his way sometimes to catch my eye. And he doesn’t pull away when I hug him back or stuff like that. So which one is it? Should I tell him that I’m into him or forget about it? The space might do us some good but I know that when I see him again it will start all over. To make matters worse, he is SUPER HOT and looks SOO GOOD shirtless (which I’ve seen like a million times because every time I use to go to his house he’d walk around in just shorts) WHAT A TEASE!..Please help and give advice…Should I spill and try to steal a kiss or something? Or just play it safe and walk away?
 
it sounds like he is at least curious.

sooo...that's your cue to get in there and flirt back :)

good luck.
 
Eh straight guys don't hold hands or kiss on cheeks. It definitely seems like he is making passes at you, but he might have some class which is why he didn't make a move on you alone at the house.
 
theres too much balance
hes kissing u holding hands

yet didnt make a move when you were at is house

tyr to get a bigger picture and maybe see whats going on in his head
try to bring it up in a not obvious way

like hey dude remeber the time at that party
that was the best man
freakin awesome we all wasted and shit yeah

iono something like that... (horrible) but hey w/e jsut ty to makehim pill

at least id do that if i were you

or ask one of your other close frineds to try to make him spill so its not so obvious for you
 
Well you could spill the beans and try to steal a kiss, but if he's just a flirt who wants attention you may lose his friendship.

You could play it safe, walk away, and then kick yourself every time you think of it for never finding out.

Here's my opinion. He sounds like he may be at least curious to have a gay experience, but isn't exactly sure how to just come out and ask you straight forward. Then during these moments of interaction he is pumped full of hormones getting him going, and then once he has a chance to calm down he may be thinking "Crap! what did I just do? What's his thoughts about me? Do i really want to be doing this? Should I just call it quits for a bit?" and these thoughts will influence him to pull away and ignore you, trying to decipher his own personal feelings. If I was you, and you said you're out so your not doing yourself any harm liking outting yourself to him, I would simply tell him in person how you feel and how he comes off. If he responds negatively while serious, he's simply a flirt. If he responds with a joking matter, there's room to talk further, and he may just come out and say he wants to experience something new. It's kind of an in-between of your two options listed at the end. You're not making him super uncomfortable by trying to steal a kiss, and your not giving yourself the short end of the stick either by simply walking away.

Hope this helps! Best of Luck
 
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