Stressed out spouse won't take a vacation?

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My husband works hard. He comes home each day at a normal time, and starts on his stay at home commission job. Most nights he doesn't get to bed until LATE (12-3am) and he gets up to get to work before 9. He just went to the dr yesterday, and we both think his issues are stress related. I've told him we need to take a vacation, have a little get-away, but he won't miss work. His sick days and vacation days are maxed out, and he won't use them. I'm afraid he's going to have a heart attack from all his stress, and it's making me stress out. His reason for not taking off any time is that we've got bills to pay, but we aren't behind on ANYTHING, and everything gets paid right on time.
I love him very much, but even his friends and family say he needs to take a few days off and get away.
I just don't know what to do!!!

I need advice!
 
were in the same boat but if we did take a vaca, all those bills that are paid on time wouldnt be paid on time that month or next and we'de spend more money on the trip, gas food etc and we'de fall even more behind. we need a vaca but think we need to do it w/ the tax return
 
Make sure his Life Insurance is all paid up.
He will not take a break until he collapses.
 
Have you tried distracting him from his second job with a little TLC?...You know what I mean. ;) Sometimes, then they get tired out and lose motivation for other activities, which in his case would be a good thing.

Alternatively, could you earn a little money part time to take some of the burden off of him?

I included a couple of links about Workaholics Anonymous. Might help?

Good luck. :)
 
My husband has not taken a vacation in years and years. He even has HAD vacation days. I think he has a work a holic issue.
 
Don't mess with a man's bike , his truck , his dog OR his job !

You may just draw back a bloody stump.
 
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