the dad in law tells son what to do and not even bother to ask me? i am his wife?

[Tiger'sMama]

it happened after dinner when dad in law told his son (who is my husband) to sleep at their place cuz did not wanted mom in law to drive him home. My car was full with my infant (baby) and my family from another country who were visiting me. My family was shocked and said that their son (my husband) should at least discuss with me first and ask me if it was okay with me but he didn't. My husband is slow thinker and his dad always has the power and ego to control him. So I told my husband how he should discuss it with me first as i am his wife and i tried to explain to him, then his dad said to me "what is the fuxing problem?" and got mad at me for making big deal about it, so i apologized to him but that's between my husband and I but he refused to hear me out and got pissed that his son had to discuss with me first. Now i'm not comfortable with the dad-in law cuz this is not first time he wants his son to listen to him without discussing with me, it has happened it over and over and over and finally this night i stood up myself & for our baby too. Did i do right?

 

[MemM1]

you should have done it at the beginning of the marriage dear laid down the ground rules your rules not the inlaws should be the ones that your husband should think about.
keep it up or devorce thre in laws