...if...? One party has a disrespectful attitude? My bf is this way with his own family and towards me. He makes rude comments, mean 'jokes' and calls me 'dumbsh*t in situations where others would usually say '(ya) silly!' He also raises his voice and name-calls during disagreements or when he's being confronted about something. I always try to find a way to be nice and 'talk' not 'fight' (tried everything..avoid using the word 'you' and saying 'this makes ME feel ___' ) but he always gets combative. Is it true it's always both people that cause problems in the relationship? I believe he'd have this problem no matter who he's with, even though he's insisted its only me that irritates him to behave this way. I find it hard to believe; he told me his pet peeve w/ last serious gf was that she 'didn't talk' when they were disagreeing- I see why! Sometimes I feel like avoiding talking to him b/c of his feisty behavior. Thoughts?